So I made friends with 2 powerlifters. Both were around 6'3 and 240lbs
I'm 5'10 but hit like train and am 217lbs. I can bech 225lbs for 3 on a good day.
We are both 19.
HOWEVER....
These guys gossip and constantly talk behind eachothers back. I'd tell one something and next thing you know the other one knows. One of them is marryied AT 19 and I was told by the other one physically abuses his wife. They act like childern and lack maturity contantly complaining about poltics.
I confronted them about this behavior and they denied it, said I was the problem, and the wife beater said he wanted to fight me. The guy who told me about the wife beater then proceeded to gaslight me saying "I never told you he beats his wife".
At first I was down to fight (I Box) but the guy is so stupid we were to fight I have to nearly kill him for him to end the fight and then there's going to prision after. So I talked it down.
They seemed cool when I first met them but they are incredibly insecure wannabe "Alphas". I'd post something cool on my insta story they send me a DM trying to passive agressively "One up me". and then eventually just were passive agressive in IRL.
So they're out of my life now. Thank god.
But I have an incredibly difficult time trusting anyone. Never really had friends growing up. More of a "Lone wolf". But I want to have friends.
However people will act all nice and friendly but when you go behind the curtain and address reality they lose their shit and show their true selves.
When in public all I see are actors.
Anyone have simular exsperience or any insights?
How to spot good friends?
TLDR: Any one have shit friends and then managed to find good ones?
xaxixh 5 days ago
GOD, I DON"T KNOW WHERE TO START.
I had the same exact type of dudes at my school. One was 6'3, total dumbass and immature asf. The other was 5'8 with no self-respect or integrity.
I am a tall person with 6'1 as my height, I am skinny but I lift weight and have good friendships, so none of them ever tried to pick on me.
But god, these mfs used to bully people by doing gay acts on them and whenever I called them out they were 'it's nothing' 'don't think like that' 'what are you talking about'
I just let it pass, I hated the class anyways. Sometimes I just used to stop them whenever it was too annoying but they were on that shit all the time.
Another time, this 5'8 dude tried to get on with this girl who was on the VERGE of breaking up with her ex but she hadn't yet broken up. He came up to me asking for advice I told him that he was getting played but he still insisted on getting on with her. At last, she got back with her ex and dumped the fuck off of him.
Another time, he accused me of taking his stuff. I have self-respect and I told him, I don't steal things. But he kept on talking about that with his 6'3 friend. I couldn't control myself and went there and grabbed his throat but his 6'3 friend took his friend away.
I think the lesson here is, just stay the fuck away from these type of people. Especially from the ones who snitch on their best friend behind their back. You can not change them and they are at the end just going to fuck up your mental.
whytehorse2021 5 days ago
It's a lot like plate theory. You find other men with common interests and they're now plates but instead of having sex you do stuff together to socialize. So, most guys are not going to be very good for you and you may soft next or hard next them. They're like the sluts in plate theory. Good for a one-off but not worthy of commitment. Eventually you'll find a good guy and you LTR him. I think my longest male LTR is now going on 35 years but he's been in Karen-wife-jail for most of that. Keep in mind you'll probably lose most of your friends to Karen-wife-jail.
mattyanon 4 days ago
Pointless.
Good
It takes time to find the good people. Keep trying, be patient.
Good people can be found doing good things.
I've never met anyone cool at the gym. I've met a few through hobbies and interests where people regularly get together.