Alright so this girl at my work has caught my attention for past week and I finally gained enough courage to go talk to her. She seems to be a shy girl and usually sits alone. I sat next to her during break and just told her I saw her when I was walking by and thought she was cute and wanted to come say hi. Her initial reaction was positive, she got shy and started smiling and laughing.
I took that as a good sign and just made some small talk. Asked her a little about work and what she like to do outside of work and what her hobbies are. She didn't really give me a lot to work with saying she just hangs out with her friends and doesn't really have any hobbies. Talked a little bit more and then I wanted to end the conversation and get her number. So I told her I needed to go meet a friend before break was over, but we should exchange numbers and continue this conversation later. She was down and gave me her number. I texted her a little after just saying who I was and she just replies with "hi". Is this a sign of low interest or is it not that big of a deal?
Also this is the part where I want to know If I played this right. So I got her number during first break, we have a 30 min lunch and another 15 min break after that. Even though the conversation wasn't much, she seemed to like me so I wanted to end the impression on a high note. And also leave a little mystery and not risk talking myself out of a date. Should I have hung out with her for another break period to build more comfort with her? Now that I think about it I didn't really tell her that much about myself.
What should be my next move? Should I text her for a bit and then ask her what her availability is for the weekend?
Also just a side note, as I was leaving the building we saw each other again as people were walking out the building, but neither of us said anything to each other. Did this make it awkward or am I just over thinking everything? Sorry for the long post and I appreciate any feedback
HopelessRomantic about a year ago
"I took that as a good sign and just made some small talk. Asked her a little about work and what she like to do outside of work and what her hobbies are. She didn't really give me a lot to work with saying she just hangs out with her friends and doesn't really have any hobbies."
Overall it sounds like it's still clearly in the early stages to tell anything, I would play it slow and don't overextend your hand. As others have said here, don't shit where you eat - I'll have to agree with them. I know you said it's not a serious job but a lot of the decisions you make in life, especially if you're planning on staying where you are (city-wise) can negatively affect your reputation in many ways. If you're young, it'd be a good time to weigh your options and ask yourself "If I keep going after her, it might look badly on me and my job. Should I cut things now and try to save face? Will my pursuit of her negatively impact my future endeavors?"
mattyanon about a year ago
Delete her number. Don't shit where you eat.
You're inexperienced and you have no idea how evil women are when the relationship ends. Don't fuck your career.
Juantrp about a year ago
It's not a really serious job. I work in a warehouse where they don't really care if you date as long as you're not a lead or a manager
whitehavik about a year ago
Even if it is a not so serious job... If that is the case, the job will already be miserable enough without you dealing with her bull shit.
shootinglikekobe about a year ago
I see nothing wrong. You work with her/see her often so you don't have to press it too hard. Play it cool, then maybe in a couple weeks see if she drinks/smokes. Get a few coworkers to hang out but make sure she's in the group. Easier to run game in a non-work/less strict environment.
whytehorse2021 about a year ago
Call her after work and get her comfortable enough to meet up somewhere for drinks. Then put your dick in her holes.
SeasonedRP about a year ago
Putting aside work-related concerns, which can be significant if this is your career and not a temporary job, you handled it fine. Leaving things on a high note was a good move. Call or text her next week and tell her to meet you for a drink.