I’m just not satisfied with fucking random horny sluts and then sending them home. Not investing shit into them. Treating them as merely a cum receiver. I’m just not satisfied with this totally emotionless bullshit.
What I genuinely crave is a bond. I want to wake up to someone in my bed that I’ve shared experiences with. Someone who supports me and in return someone I support. Someone who bothers to ask how I’m feeling, and not because I want a mother to nurture me, but someone who at least shows some care. Someone that gives me that warm oxytocin like a puppy dog when I look at them.
I want a girl I can take camping and fuck in the tent, then laugh and tell stories about our past with.
Is there anything possible deeper than casual sex, are there any girls out there who don’t just want to hop dick from dick. I don’t like this shit at all.
I want more than just cum receptacles. I have girls who message me every day “Daddy I miss your big girthy cock” and we fuck and I send them home, but I’m just not satisfied with this. I want more.
Guyandtheroadtovictory 4y ago
The Red Pill is not about horny sluts,but about understanding of gender, relationship dynamics, real life without illusions, about what lies beneath the surface.
There is no bond with women. There is roles and dynamics between genders. There is no friendship as oxytocin like a puppy - buy a dog then. Other mentioned stuff - why not? When men dont pedastalize women and are on their purpose in life, it attracts complimentary people and situations. Mindset is powerful tool. Be yourself - your best version of yourself and everything will be allright.
I divorced @2021 and summer was one of the best i ever had. Tents, cars, home, woods. I got chin up - read, trained, spent time to learn new stuff by myself - SUP, windsurfing, cuisine, new bars and clubs, new places checked. Doing what I love and are meeting women who gets similar vibe. Of course met some lgbt, party girls as well - but thats experience. Enjoying life. Working hard, playing hard I guess. :)
pfeilmacher 4y ago
It's fine to bond with a woman....to have a monogamous relationship with the right girl. RP is just a toolset that helps you get what you want out of life, and that includes leading a relationship in the direction you want.
Durek_The_Bald 4y ago
Depends what you mean by "genuine". It's possible to have the things you mention (support, bond, connection, teamwork etc.), but there's an irony here: In order to "have" them, you need to realise that you never really "have" them. These things are continuously being negotiated/evaluated in a relationship or a marriage.
Why? Because women are emotionally driven and solipsistic in nature. They're all about "right now". So what they have to offer you is dependent on what they feel like offering you at that moment. And what they feel like, and how often they feel like that, is again dependent on your frame/game/SMV.
So for one, if you want these things, you cannot be the person in the relationship that want these things the most. You cannot exist in that frame, and at the same time expect her to admire you, be attracted to you, respect you and have all these cozy feelings that govern how a woman acts towards you.
To quote the late, great Patrice O'Neill:
"The best relationships are the ones where she loves you, and you like her"
At face value, it sounds a bit sad, doesn't it? Not to allow yourself to just let loose, to love unabashedly, just so that she won't inevitably see you as a lesser man because of it.
But here's a mental model that works for me with regards to that: When it comes to those lubby dubby feelings that, of course, you want to have and to feel, I indulge in them, but I don't exist in them. I think of them as I do with drugs and alcohol - they are for recreation only. But they don't govern my everyday life to the point where I make decisions based on the need for them.
A year and a half into my marriage, and four years into the relationship, this seems to work for me so far. When I maintain that frame, things are good, sex is great, I feel good, she feels good. But when I slip up, and lose frame, I pay the price for a couple of days. Only time will tell if it will work long term. But if it doesn't, that's alright too. Because that's another thing: You need to be ok with things ending, to see that as an opportunity, rather than you having lost something (obviously, that's harder if you live somewhere with draconian divorce laws).
TL;Dr:
P.S:
Go check out Rian Stone on YouTube if you want red pill content that's more geared towards relationships. But don't underestimate the importance of spinning plates before getting involved in something that's going to be unnecessarily complicated for you to get out of. LTRs and marriage is red pill/game on hard mode. I for one did not spin enough plates before settling down, and that's not good.