I like leading the relationship and planning dates, but god damn i hate always initiating things with my LTR. I feel like if i open up about this she will think its needy or something. Shes my LTR always initiates sex, never turns it down, submissive, always available (99% of the time), texts back 1-5 minutes consistently.
She will text me first about 1:3 times i text her first. Every time she texts me its to say "i love you, i miss you, i left my bra" etc. Basically just affectionate texts.
I would like for her to ask me to come over, or when can i see you? etc.
Its always me commanding her "hey babe, come over at 10 were gonna watch a movie" or "ill pick you up at 8 tomorrow morning be ready" ...
It gets a little exhausting always doing this every. single. time.
And also, i begin to feel like a robot always making commands, but i feel like girls panties dry up when you say "can you come over?" instead of "come here at 8. wear that skirt again" or whatever. I also know that asking girls out this way is the Proper "manly" way that they do appreciate and find impressive.
is it OK to feel like a broken record? is it OK to be annoyed about always initiating meetups? How can i change this behavior in her. Is she just letting me lead the relationship or am I actually doing all the heavy lifting?
Her attraction isnt in question here, just the dynamic.
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graphemecluster 2y ago
Being a man is lonely. Leadership in general is lonely. I guarantee you there are CEOs of big companies who feel exactly the same way.
If nothing else is wrong then just get used to it. And remember that girls who show higher initiative like you’re describing also come with a whole host of other masculine traits, and traits that make relationship stability difficult long term.
Take care of her and count your lucky stars.
Scorpion69_ 2y ago
its ok.
look, she seems like a very submissive girl who thrives when following ur leadership. Shes like that and thats cool, some girls simply are very submissive (which is what we want)
it might seem like she isnt too interested but if she answers ur texts fast and is obedient and femenine with you, then this aint a problem.
your job as a man is to lead.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I'm on year 18 of this crap with my wife. The more submissive they are, the less they initiate. It's just a fact of life. Take the good with the bad.
SeasonedRP 2y ago
She wants you to lead like men traditionally have done. I don't see the problem. I prefer it when women are this way.