It can be whatever you want, but too much familiarity can be detrimental as it can lead to decreased sexual attraction. Also both parties really do need "alone time" to live their own lives.

I recommend focusing on functional life activities with LTRs. Go to them gyn together, cook together, go food shopping together, shower together. Fuck a lot, fuck in the shower, why not. You have to do all that stuff anyway, doing it with your girl helps her feel guided, secure, healthy, stable, and taken care of.

Try not to indulge in hedonistic entertainment binges together. Save that for occasional holidays.

In term of “date dates” I’d suggest aiming for every weekend with the option to skip a weekend liberally if schedules or life doesn’t allow. So in practice 2-3 dates per month.

Don't let RP bullshit get into your head too much in this ltr it can make it worse. Just do what you like and you guys will figure it out. I just telly gf I'm cooking spaghetti tonight (for example) and shes welcome to come eat some. She does the same.

We have shows we watch together, we banter allot, we have mutual friends and we naturally have allot of fun like the other day we pulled over on the road just to check out something that looked interesting.

In the early days she would plan heaps and spend allot on me. She did like 80% of the effort for me I basically just did valentines day.

Don't have to have everything super planned just gotta naturally vibe and get along is most important.

You need to always be willing to walk away from an ltr if it's not working. She will test this too. Her desire isn't in what you do with her it really is just about not being an I secure little boy overthinking and redilling everything.

Everyone has their own idea of what is the right balance. Honestly, it depends on your needs and hers.

I would say 2 times per week.

Spend one evening out with your friends, her friends, or combination. That allows her to get a certain level of social status with her people. Allows her to be the queen bee around her friends even if she wasn't before. How you ask... I am the king if all that surrounds me. Since I will be superior to any of the guys there the chicks will defer alpha status upon my girl. Until I fuck up or we break up.

One night out per week as a romantic show and comfort time...if she has earned it.

Other than that, there better be some home cooking happening (I refer back to the 'she earned it' comment).

I haven't "gone out" with a girl since high school. I think that's more of a commercial exploitation thing. Save your money and spend it on yourself. If you're going to something you like and you ask her along, it's customary for you to pay if she's po. I can't imagine paying for 3 dates every week. Sounds ridiculous.

Anyways. I feel obligated to plan dates 2-3 times a week because were "together" now and i feel like i cant really keep up the status quo. Does this mean im going to be more beta? No. Just that we need to spend more time together.

This sounds kind of lame. If you don't enjoy the company, then don't LTR. When I am with an LTR, I want to see them, not just to fuck, but because I actually like them and want to hang out with them. I don't need to plan dates because I want to see them, and I'm actively looking for opportunities to do so. I'm not thinking up activities, I'm looking for opportunities. Sure, I'm busy and can't always be available, but It is disappointing to me that I am busy as well.

I would never decide to take an LTR to the movies and then go look for a movie to watch. I would be going to a movie, and decide that it would be more fun with my LTR along, because she is cool and funny and fun to be with.

It's OK to feel all of the feelings associated with infatuation and pair bonding, as long as you aren't delusional about the way women work, and don't become enslaved into the mental framework of oneitis. When you're deciding to chain your balls to someone with a LTR-style commitment, it needs to be someone you actually enjoy as person, and actually look forward to seeing. When that's the case, managing time together isn't a chore, because you're already actively looking for when you can spend time together.

Dating an LTR does not need to be expensive. Skip the clubbing and pricey dinners. Go for a walk and split a burrito. Cook dinner in. Hiking... running... picnics... tennis at the park. Go to an empty dive bar at happy hour, and load up the jukebox and dance by yourselves. Bring a flask to the kiddie park, get drunk and make out on the ferris wheel. Go to 7-11 on date night and eat nachos, and chug 40's of Olde English or Mad Dog behind the dumpster. If you actually enjoy someone's company, there's literally an endless amount of fun cheap shit you can do together, and still have fun.

An LTR date revolves around three things... talking, fucking, and aftercare. Most people like to socialize activities they already want to do... like eating or exercise. When I was dirt poor, my dates consisted of a heavy blanket and three dollar bottle of port wine. I'd find a lake, we hike somewhere private, bed down, talk and look at the moon reflected in the water, get tipsy and fuck under the stars.

For me, fucking 2-3 times a week wouldn't cut it.