let's be friends

This means "I am not attracted to you".

I realized she's a horrible friend with all the blatant disrespect (horrible wing woman and doesn't even try to bring other girls into the group, always takes things from me but never gives back anything when I ask)

Right. Good realisation.

My friends have told me not to make a move on her bc they don't wanna fuck up the social circle but she's fucked everyone of my friends.

And she has a bf.

Also when she's sober she gets really distant and if I try to physically escalate she keeps pulling away and ultimately leaves.

right

Her girlfriends have literally told me that she's not "interested in me in that way" but she "cares about me".

Ok, you have to understand the brutal reality here, so I'm going to tell you it.

She is not attracted to you. But that's ok, other girls will be.

She doesn't care about you one fucking bit. She cares about WHAT YOU DO FOR HER. That's why she tries to keep you around, but doesn't do anything to help you in any way. She cares about what you do for her, but not about you. Understand and know this vital difference, it will stand you in good stead in future.

Should I even bother with this chick anymore?

If you don't know the answer yet,, read the above and the sidebar over and over again until you get it.

The other posts nail it but I'll explain the long term implications. When she's done "finding herself", "having her fun", etc. right around age 28-32, she's going to want a wedding and a child as an accessory. That's where you come in. So keep providing her beta needs while she gets some alpha's seeds and one day you will get the consolation prize of being the guy she uses to "stick the landing" in her 30s when she "settles" for you.

Or don't be that guy. Be an asshole. Tell her she's a shitty friend and using you. Women like her love assholes. The shittier you treat her, the more she'll be attracted.

Chances are good you would make for a good husband and provider, and she's trying to "have her cake and eat it too."

She's giving you scraps to keep you interested so that she'll have a settle guy after the fun of the carousel, but you deserve far better than scraps. She's for the streets. Don't even bother anymore. Move on and give your time and attention to someone who isn't going to make you frustrated.

Shes fucked all of your friends but you. You even get the lets just be friends. Have some self respect.

Why are you doing mental gymnastics to paint her in a light she isnt. She is vile, stop spending your time framing her in whatever way you can. Its wasted energy. Get on with your own life and getting laid.

Btw the longer you spend playing friend to super sluts that suck any dick off than yours, you may aswell be gay. Thats how everyone will see you and probably do. Your post suggests you dont want to be an orbiter but here you are posting as an orbiter and focussing on her.

Also when shes mooching round a club looking for you, shes looking for comfort not a lay or youd be getting sucked off on the dancefloor.

Sorry to give it to you hard, but we dont give comforting lies here. You have alot of years ahead of you. Drop this slag and level up.