I started a new casual relationship. We both have are own issues and neither of us is the "prize" in the relationship, i.e. similar attractiveness and mental health issues.
Due to lazyness I don't really set the "tone" for the relationship. I propose new dates and activities and she usually agrees to them, so it's going well, since the relationship is new.
At some point we're going to encounter an area of conflict and I probably won't have any "hand" or be able to "insist" on getting something I want, I'll just passively accept whatever as long as sex is offered.
I'm not the type of person to become a beta provider ( I don't give her money or run errands for her) we just spend time together and have fun. But, I could totally become the person who gets tossed aside when a "real alpha" shows up and starts demanding that she be available to him on a regular basis, etc.
I'm making zero effort to show that I am a high value male, which in a small way is attractive because it shows genuinely don't give a fuck what people think, but at the same time I can see this will eventually be a problem for me, weather it's with her or someone else.

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mattyanon Admin 3y ago
This is sleepwalking passively into a shit deal.
Once you've fucked her you get a little bit of leverage. Not much, but a little.
Right. Enjoy your turn.
Right.
Best plan: get other options, care less.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 3y ago
so in summary, you are having some casual sex with a girl who's not LTR material but it's fun. both about the same attractiveness and issues.
You are asking, so, in future, how would I be able to move to the next step/LTR with someone who has options.
simple, you need options also.
How to obtain options?
Get fit, more physically attractive Get yourself together (mental health, financially,etc) Get confidence
then figure out what you want or do what you want.