Matched with Filipina kinda new to western life.
We talk for a while, I ask her out.
She says, do you really want to see me? I’m not pretty
I didn’t know if I should validate or not I hit the eye roll emoji and said yea I really want to get to know her and see what she is like
She says so you look on the inside only not external looks
I said both I want all of it
She says haha, and asks where I work
I said you wanna know me for me or for what money I make ahah do you cook?
She says she is just trying to get to know me and yes she does
I told her make me adobo and she said she will and asks shit like if I have allergies and what not
Then convo ended, but she never texted my number with her name like I told her to when I originally said lets go out. Whats going on does she want more betaness or alphaness
r3z01v 3y ago
You sound very friendly and compliant for a woman that is actively trying to comfort test you and get you to act all manly and stuff.
MAKE IT FUN! Stop trying to figure out the relationship fomr a few texts.
fantantric 3y ago
Filipinas are a strange beast. They are overly positive people with caretaker roots, and they love white boys. Or at least this is what it seems to me.
mattyanon Admin 3y ago
The solution is to qualify her, eg "I have weird taste".
They forget the plan amidst all their emotions, you need to confirm it to them at the end.
She sounds like a fucking pain though
OtPayOkerSmay 3y ago
Beta way to reply - "No, you're so pretty" - you essentially did this with the eye-roll. This type of validation is boring, and they know a beta will reply with an objection - hence why they say it.
Alpha way to reply - "Hey, it's what's on the inside that counts" - she even said this back to your response... You needed to beat her to the punch. This type of response is low key agreeing with her, and it will drive her nuts because she would realize you're not just trying to nice your way into pussy. You also leave them in the dark about if you're looking for a notch or a relationship. Women rely on their looks, so to reply in a mysterious way to this type of comment will leave them chasing your validation. Don't give them validation in situations where it's clear they are baiting you into giving it.
Asking where you work right off the bat (I think) is a monkey branch technique. It's not "what do you do for work," but "WHERE do you work?" if she knows you work at a successful business, she can assume there will be successful men she can monkey branch to.
Also - Asking about allergies before you've even met in person? This question might seem like she cares, but I think she's sizing you up for a life insurance payout... Next.
Moonraven 3y ago
Ai smh, I did the eye roll thinking it was kind of like ignoring the dumb shit not validating she is pretty.
OtPayOkerSmay 3y ago
"She says haha, and asks where I work[;] I said you wanna know me for me or for what money I make ahah do you cook?"
I think the way to respond to this is: "Do you know Google?" - google is a fill in for any major international corporation, feel free to use whatever company you like.
She responds: "OMG Yes! You work at Google? How much do you make?!?!"
You: "No I don't work at Google."
Her: "Well, where do you work then?"
You: "You'll have to go on a date with me to find out..." or something along those lines.
Push-pull to create mystery and some fun in the situation, rather than addressing the "you only want to know how much I make" elephant in the room. You bait them into getting their hopes up, only to pull the carpet out from under them and keep things moving towards a date.
Edit: You should be trying to get more fun out of her than she is getting out of you - she's making you react in almost needy ways. Tease and play purely for your own fun and she'll think of you at least as not a nice-your-way-into-pussy kind of guy - AKA an alpha
whytehorse2021 3y ago
My wife was kinda like that. They don't get the level of free attention in their home countries that they get in the West. Very few women are fat in the Phils so she's probably just average back home.