I’ve had a real rough few months. I’ve kept it to myself as much as possible. But being a human, when your on your knees trying to stand and getting punched from a new side each time, you slip up. Life throws all the shit at once sometimes.
Anyway. My LTR. Any time i slip up, i only get with her becoming insecure due to me struggling, and then making it into her empathetic mess and i have to comfort and be empathetic to her. Increasing my stress level. Or sue just blames me for something out of my control. I shoulda done X. Never “shit happens”. Is it wrong to expect some light empathy from a LTR? Not even “support” necessarily. Just, “shit happens”. Instead i just have extra stress build and have to console her over my own stress bothering her.
Honestly. Im close to my witts end. When things were well or ticking along, relationship was great. I almost feel spiteful. Like, fuck this cold hearted cunt
pfeilmacher 4y ago
It's a great way to lose women in your life. It's not their job to be supportive (even though some are).
If you need emotional support, get a therapist or a better group of guy friends.
Drainstink 4y ago
Its not like i want to vent or get support from her. Its just sometimes after u have the worst 6 months of your life u accidentally cant hide ur having a bad day, even if u stay silent on it till they ask you to tell them whats up 50 times. It’s happened maybe twice at most. All i kinda expect is “shit happens its ok” but instead i get some psychopath reaction.
I understand the red pill well but to me thats ridiculous. It make me think i do not want to have this person in my life anymore, it feels like betrayal
pfeilmacher 4y ago
If your chemistry is bad, then dump her.
But you shouldn't expect a woman to mother you at all. It might feel good short-term, but it ends in disaster and it makes you weaker.
Drainstink 4y ago
Never want to be “mothered” just not treated like something under somebodies shoe. I posted this to make sure i havent lost my mind. Im well pilled. I wanted to make sure i was not having a lapse. Maybe our LTRs are meant to treat us this way? Maybe i forgot that women should never offer you a simple “its ok” or whatever. They are meant to flip it and immediately turn it into how it effects them and how bad you are for not doing X to prevent random shitty situation.
But i dont think i have lost my mind
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
Not LTR material. Ditch or demote.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
This is normal, women are usually like this. They are completely self-centred creatures.
It's not right or wrong, but it is completely pointless. This is not how women are wired. You have been misled by society to think that women are "nurturing" and "kind" and "supportive". This is a lie.
Equally though..... someone who isn't supportive is not suitable to be a LTR. FWB at best.
Not cold hearted..... just absolutely completely 100% selfish. Your problems mean less support for her therefore she attacks you and cries about herself.
She is not LTR material, she does not deserve a LTR. Demote to FWB and fuck other women. Or not.
unplugged69 4y ago
This is why we say women are children. Of course you need support, you are not a robot. You get support from your family and from your close male friends, not from your slampiece. She does not have the mental capacity to deal with it, her state is dependent on you and if you falter so will she.
However I will add this, some women are better than others. This one does not sound like LTR material, you need to be more selective before promoting to LTR. Not every vagrant vagina that winks at you deserves LTR status. You need to remember that.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
In 17 years of marriage my wife has never once given me emotional support. I've lost frame a few times and it killed the relationship until I got frame back. So basically the answer is no, you can't expect any support from an LTR.
On the other hand you can count on your bros to give support and still respect you afterwards. I've had a really rough past year and stoicism has really helped me through, not my wife. Anyway, shit happens. Even the best of us get caught off-guard and fucked over. All you can do is recover and grow stronger.
quietus 4y ago
question is why do YOU want to ltr this retard
ImOnThePoH 4y ago
Women lack emotional intelligence when it comes to empathy. Tbh I would dump her if she manages to make you feel worse if you open up. Pretty toxic ngl. I get that people here say "never open up or she loses respect", but that's just utter crap. It's all about how you open up. If you convey what's going on and don't act like a little bitch (you'll know when you've crossed that line) and she still acts like that, easily dump her. I mean think about it, that's how she'd treat the kids y'all would have, wtf? We have 0 time for emotionally retarded women.
Drainstink 4y ago
My ex was more empathetic. But i agree women generally have no empathy unless its for their children, or some situation they have experienced exactly and even then its a self catering form of it. They also have no fucking idea about reality. They will employ logic but only on a strawman basis.