Hey guys,
I had a weird experience a few days ago and I cant understand what happened. I was on the edge to ask the girl but thanks god I did not, so now I am here.
I few days ago I cold approached a girl, we just had 5min to talk but we had a good vibe and we decided to go a for a tee the next days. 2 Days ago I wrote her about the tee and asked when she is free. Her first messages were a tons of smileys (with hearths and kisses) and she asked me if we can go train together (I have a picture of my body on whatsapp where I am really shredded). She did not answer my question when she has time for a tee
So I replied with "yeah sure, I take 50 € per hour". And she stopped replying. I knew something was off, but I asked her 1 day later, whats with the tee. And the next days she wrote me 3 messages and told me:
She: Hey I think I am not ready for something new. But it was really nice meeting you, maybe we will see us again blablabla
To be honest, when I am getting ghosted I dont care anymore but stuff like that pisses me off. Why is she showing high interested and then some hours later she has no interest anymore?!?
Can someone explain me what fucking happened there?
koedeloe123 4y ago
What's a tee?
Nadox12 4y ago
xD I meant tea...
koedeloe123 4y ago
Oh, I see. Could be a million reasons. Maybe she's interested in another guy, maybe she's playing games, or she got offended by your message somehow. A lot of women are retarded nowadays.
The same thing happened to me last weekend. Met a girl at a bar, started flirting, agreed to grab drinks sometime. I hit her up, only for her to ghost on me. Like I said, there's no point in stressing over it, you'll never know the answer. If a girl is really interested, she'll make it easy.
Durek_The_Bald 4y ago
Don't ask her when she's free, in stead tell her when you're free. Your time and attention is a prescious commodity, remember. That + maybe she was just looking to get something for free in the first place (like a free PT lesson). Anyways, fuck it. You win some you lose some.
pfeilmacher 4y ago
You did basically everything right....and that's all you can do. MOST approaches to women will be unsuccessful, but it's a numbers game. The more you approach, the more you get laid. And you get better at it, learning quite a bit about a woman's psychology while you do it.
Keep on truckin', bro.
User4566 4y ago
Same thing happens to me. I cold approach a girl and the vibe could be great and then she's a different person once I start texting her. Maybe you might want to talk to her more than just 5 minutes. I'm not saying what you did was wrong, but from my experience girls respond to me better after I talk to them for a solid 15 or more minutes. I think you should try that out and see for yourself.
One time, I cold approached a chick who opened up to me after 40 fucking minutes of talking in my college cafeteria. Went up to her on line and said "need some company?" because she was alone. I noticed a drastic change in her body language because she knew I actually gave a fuck about what she had to say during the conversation and showed that I enjoyed talking to her.
Nadox12 4y ago
As I said in my post I just had a few minutes with her because she had to leave the train. I still have to find the middleground between too much and too less time talking. I dont wanne spend my time with a bitch and talk to her 20minutes if its not necessary. I try to game her as fast as possible simple as with this model:
Opener -> Attract -> Comfort -> Close -> Comfort (Optional)
If I can push through it as fast as possible I will do it and leave the conversation first