I put others people opinion so above mine. I'm 18 and I know this is part of being a teenager, but this is just too much.
I was out with a friend in mcdonalds chlling after playing pool. I noticed that I wouldn't speak loud about things that interest me. I would feel very anxious when I would. I would just wait for people to say something about it. (noone of course said anything)
I would also talk in a certain voice, like my throat would be dry and I just wouldn't be myself. I would be what I think the other person would want me to be.
I'm aware of this problem of not being myself and I'm working on it, but any other advice? I also thought for a long time I was really socially savy, but I'm very socially awkward and retarded.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
It's called masking and it's a sign of autism.
Pachesan 4y ago
You're not confident. That's the problem and here's the solution.
The best practical advice I got for you to build that confident up is to take the lead and bring your friends to where you want to go.
For example, instead of your friends asking you to come out and go to places; you text them first, ask them if they want to go to WHERE YOU WANT to go.
This will get you figuring out the logistic;
Being able to answer all this will get you working NOT ONLY on your Confident; but will help you build your on Leadership, Communication and Logistic planning skill.
Growing 4y ago
And then, there's self doubt.
It will always be there but you'll learn to go through with things despite the constant nagging in your head.