Im not a big texter, but i usually text back plates/fwb if they initiate and are acting good for me (submissive, fun to be around).
Sometimes i will meet up with a fwb and everything will be going great and they send me a text after the date with hearts or something and i just dont feel the need to text back at all, when it may come across as punishing bad behavior.
Is this a bad thing? I know its attractive to not text back all the time, but thats usually when you are chasing the woman, not when she is acting right and already yours. Should i make sure i always text back and reward good behavior even if im not in the mood... Thoughts?
*This is one of my biggest hang-ups in texting.
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
If you feel like texting back to a particular text is not appropriate for you guys' relationship (plate/fwb/ltr etc.) or where you want it to go, then dont. Other than that it's just a push pull game.
In the end it just boils down to being comfortable with the choice you make by either texting something or not texting back, and accepting the consequences. Whatever her reaction, it's her hamster spinning and projecting intent based on her own personality.
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
In my opinion yes, in order to keep a woman around ,even as a plate, you have to show even a slight dose of emotional availability. Don't go overboard though, avoid lovey dovey bullshit. For example:
Her: Had a really fun time today, good night babe endless heart emojis You: Had a really fun time myself, always a pleasure when you ride me like that;)See you next week, have a great night.
SgtBuchannon99 4y ago
Yeah we do something like that every time. She will text me within 15 minutes after every date. I actually kind of like it because shes not playing games.
But this time i just didnt write back. She just sent me this sticker emoji of a girl with heart eyes and hearts in the background. Didnt write back, just wondering if that is the wrong move because we had hot sex and had a good time, and i just ghosted her text.
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
If you don't want to make them feel like you are ghosting you can just heart react the emoji for example and move on without answering with a text necessarily. I don't know the app you are texting through but I am sure all of the available ones have that feature.
unplugged69 4y ago
If she's acting right and doing the right things then you reward her with some attention but not more than she gives you.
Ignoring them when they're acting well is not a good idea and will lead to the plate breaking. However I agree that you shouldn't reply to everything they say, especially if they text you boring shit, just ignore that.
If it's a post sex text then it's good and you should reply but be less enthusiastic than her, use the 2/3 golden rule