I’ve been reading old posts on the sub and here regarding the of the key aspects of women continuing to want to seek you out and sleep with you is being the “fun cool laid back non judgmental” guy in her life. You know the guy that gives her the feels and fucks her like her plugged in bf can’t. However I’ve started to run into the situations where my fwb and new plate are “too open” with me.
For example my fwb went out of state to see her ex. (Yea she’s stupid but what women isn’t). Well she gets there and immediately starts texting me and trying to video call me. I entertain some of her texts until she tells me something along the lines of “he was actually good in bed this time. I guess you have competition now.” My response was something along the lines of “yea that shouldn’t be too hard to do” in a very comical and exaggerated way. Was this some sort of jealousy shit test that I passed by accident?
She also tells me that he makes her feel so insecure (lol women, why are you there then) and that I treat her way better. I guess this could have been a comfort test but I didn’t care to engage because I know treating women like stray cats keeps them coming back. And if I’m already “treating her better” I might be already giving too much to begin with.
I don’t care that she’s getting dick elsewhere. I consciously and subconsciously know that she’s sleeping with other people, well because I’m doing the same.I just don’t want to hear about it if that makes sense. I’m not blabbing out every time I’m with my other girl, I don’t see it as necessary. I’ve also done enough sidebar reading to know that overt verbal communication is a no no 90% of the time.
Have any of you had good results with small amounts overt verbal communication as long as you have the backbone to back up the “punishment?”
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Has casually mentioning other hookups that you’ve had worked for any of you to flip the script on plates so to speak. Could this be a jealousy test to see if she can get a rise out of me?

unplugged69 4y ago
You're giving her beta vibes, that wasn't a comfort test it was a shit test. She shouldn't be saying you treat her better, that you're the nice guy.
If she cared about getting in a relationship with you she wouldn't flaunt the fact that she's a whore, she would try to hide it. She sounds like an alpha widow and her ex is a chad
You need to be that asshole that won't commit that she complains to orbiter or ex about. Instead she's complaining to you about her asshole ex, that's a bad sign that you're beta bux and he's alpha fux.
You need to stop providing so much comfort, fuck them hard and then leave, you're a busy guy with shit to do. Stop texting and replying to all the useless messages she sends you, your life is so amazing that you don't have time for that shit.
late_bloomer 4y ago
I don’t know how though, I barely entertain her texts or calls. I don’t reply to probably 70% of the text or calls that I get from her. Constantly leave her on read; an when I do text I always turn the conversation sexual. And the overwhelming majority of the time I only reach out to her when I’m horny.
That’s actually not a problem, correct me if I’m wrong. I don’t want anything more than fwb with her. She has a million red flags and is clearly not over her ex. She’s fun to occasionally hang out with and we’re really compatible in bed but that’s it.
Honestly I don’t know how else I could treat this chick worse. I guess I could just ignore her for days at a time but that’s the only thing that comes to mind. I might sound really stupid but I’ve never been the kind of person to intentionally treat others badly so this is all new to me.
Already doing that too. If it’s what I’d describe as a “low effort” text I leave it on read. If I can tell that she put in some effort I’ll text for like 10-15 mins and then tell her that I need to get back to what I’m doing. Maybe her ex treats her like such absolute dog shit that what I consider bare minimum seems “better” to her.
unplugged69 4y ago
In that case you're doing everything right, and just continue what you are doing. You seem to know what's up with this chick, she's definitely not LTR material. Since you're not giving her too much comfort then it's fine, just ignore her idiotic comments and shit tests and keep fucking her and keep getting more plates/FWB.
Ultimately when you're in the right place, you naturally gravitate away from women that don't please you as much and naturally gravitate towards the ones that do, that's why always having new prospective plates is key to a happy redpilled life.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
I have a don't ask/don't tell policy with my wife. The less you care about her fucking other guys, the more she'll try to fuck you. My wife has been pounding the shit out of me lately and especially since I told her she can go be with other guys.