Hi guys,
I had an interesting experience. I approached a girl and we exchanged numbers. However, due to personal reasons, I could not write her until a week. Her first answer to me was "I thought you would ghost me". It turned out that the girl is already rather insecure anyway but a thought came to me anyway.
I always try to find a time to meet on the spot but sometimes it doesn't work out and you just say, ok then next week. Usually I write girls 1-2 days after the conversation. Is it possibly better to write her 1 week even maybe 2 weeks later?
My idea is: Maybe I make myself extremely non needy, she gets the impression the guy actually has not so much interest in me and she gets more interested again, especially when its a maybe girl. I had a conversation earlier. It went great but in the end I made a few mistakes. She said we can meet next week. But with her I have the feeling, if I write directly, I have 0 chance. Therefore, what do you say. Best to wait longer than usual 5-14 days or rather write relatively train?
User4566 4y ago
Literally what AMS said.
Nadox12 4y ago
Do you have a Link?
User4566 4y ago
I think it was a video on how to text women
Gilles 4y ago
In my experience there is not really a "best time" to write for a date. If she wants to meet up, she'll make it easy, it doesn't really matter how long you wait.
Nadox12 4y ago
I really dont know to how to handle girls that saying they just can meet up next week or something.
For example I approached the girl on monday and tried to fix a date on spot. She says she cant this week but we can meet up next week.
I dont know what to write to her during this week, whats your advise? Thats why I waited
unplugged69 4y ago
There isn't a specific number of days you have to wait, but don't text immediately because you're a busy guy always doing cool shit, right? However don't wait too long either, who cares it's only been 2 days. If she really wants to meet up she will, if she's not responsive or gives you a maybe then you soft next her and game other chicks.
SgtBuchannon99 4y ago
In my experience 1-3 days is the best time, shows you dont play games and its also striking while the iron is hot.
Waiting 7-14 days can rub interested girls the wrong way. And they may play games back off the jump.
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
don't know what's best. I've done asking for contact then forgot about them for a month or two, then asked them out okay. imo it depends on their availability at the moment and their interest towards you, so there's really no concrete answer. Doesn't hurt to try. Drop a text like "There's a great jazz night at xyz bar, I thought you might like it, let's go together" and see how it goes