I put a spying app on LTR's phone and had it running for almost a month. During this period, I placed her on soft next where I basically cut all contact. The logic behind this being that most women will switch to anyone they've been cheating with when the relationship is rocky. I didn't find anything alarming, other than her watching porn one morning (she had claimed she doesn't watch porn). Was a couple of videos of chics playing with themselves. Her phone later starts freezing and draining the battery too fast and that's when she started digging. She sent screenshots of all the apps she suspected asking whether I knew about them, which I denied. Had to factory reset her phone. A few days later I picked her call while really drunk and blabbered on stuff that I wouldn't normally know (places she had gone and that kind of shit). I know I lost frame terribly and I still cringe about it. She still made the effort to get the LTR back on track. I brought up the issue to see where her head was about the whole issue. Said as much as it's an invasion of privacy, it would be kinda justified if I did that because I'm her boyfriend. Do you guys think I can recover from this loss of frame? My other problem is that I never seem to be okay with not knowing everything that's going on in my life. I keep tabs on all people I'm involved with, even if it's business related (it's a field where people will backstab you the minute you stop watching your back). I also got involved with lots of women, both single and married, after discovering TRP and this gave me immense trust issues. I would hate to be caught unaware. How do I avoid the temptation to spy again? Even if I don't find anything won't I just assume she's gotten better at covering her tracks? And before you mention it, I know I shouldn't be this invested.