Hey i'll try summarise. So I got laid a couple of times in my teen years, but i was goofy, nerdy, anti social. I spent years building myself up and improving my SMV. I wasn't red pill but was smart enough to improve my SMV. I really wanted a girlfriend. At 24, I was using dating apps. I didn't have any dating experience. I met a girl who was attractive. She had all the red flags. Promiscuous past, daddy issues, abusive ex's etc. But she was fun, cool to hang out with. We started dating and I fell hard for her. We went out for 9 months. She really did feel like a best friend, as she mirrored my interests and values. In hindsight she may have had some type of personality disorder.
She ended up cheating on me and throwing me away. As if i had meant nothing to her at all. I acted very beta/cringe trying to get her back but she had already monkey branched to the new guy.
I know i was a beta and all that stuff. I have learnt from this. I know that she did me a favour (Imagine if i made her pregnant!). But I felt so horrible having my heart ripped out. From acting like my best friend to just throwing me a way/cheating on me.
I know now that women commonly do this, i know all the red pill stuff. The point of this post is that the pain and hurt i experienced was so bad. I even felt suicidal. It has made me fearful of women. I plated a few average girls but stopped seeing them. I feel nothing. I'm scared of women. It's gotten to the point i feel like giving up on dating. I never want to feel that pain again. I'm over it now.
But how do I get over this fear of women ??? I'm genuinely scared to get close to women at all. I have never felt so horrible about myself when she cheated on me/discarded me. What can Ido?

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whytehorse2021 4y ago
How can you be afraid of women? They're so cute and tiny. You're not afraid of women, dude, you're afraid of loss. Can't lose something if you're not attached. Attachment leads to loss. Loss leads to suffering. Suffering leads to anger. Anger leads to hate.
Back in my blue pill days I had oneitis for my wife. Before her I had oneitis for a gf and when she dumped me I put a gun to head and pulled the trigger. Fortunately it wasn't loaded and in the time it took me to scare up a bullet I changed my mind. I went through 2 years of depression after losing "the one".
Now that I understand attachment I realize that my wife will die as we all do. I will lose her one way or the other. I'm no longer attached to her and my oneitis ex-gf. I am no longer haunted by memories of what might have been. I can live in the here and now.
Gidanocitiahisyt 4y ago
I thought I was afraid of women too, but eventually realized that I was afraid of men. I've had men become quite aggressive towards me when I hit on someone who I didn't know is their daughter/sister/girlfriend.
Of course, this is where lifting helps.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
And combat sports. I grew up on ice skates playing hockey which was a combat sport back in those days and my dad taught me wrestling and then I went on and learned Tai Chi. I've had big body builders try to fight me in high school and they end up on their back in the snow and just take off scared. I've had big black dudes come at me in boot camp and they end up splatted against the wall. I'm not a good fighter but my balance and dexterity usually win out and then the choke holds end things if it goes that far.
SilentGuy99 4y ago
Ok good point, so i guess in my situation, i'm SCARED of getting attatched to women .therefore i avoid them at all costs. I guess i am so fearful of attachment i probably won;t get attached. But the pain was so unbearable, the heartbreak, sleepless nights, i too had a nera suicide attempt Every time i think of dating a women i think NOPE not doing that again! nope nope nope nope.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Attach me once, shame on you. Attach me twice, shame on me. I'll never forget the sound of that unloaded gun firing because I am constantly reminded by the news of men killing themselves over this blue pill nonsense. Read the reddit sidebar, get your stuff together, and go back out into the world and succeed. I've been happily married for 17 years and have 2 sons so I'm a living example that it can be done.
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whytehorse2021 4y ago
Many times. She got pregnant so she aborted and ran off with Chad.
SilentGuy99 4y ago
sorry im new to the forum are you asking me or @whytehorse2021
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painsad 4y ago
https://fridaynightfunkin.io/friday-night-funkin tests your musical knowledge and sense of rhythm. Girlfriend is the happy girl sitting on top of the boom box. She is a white woman with long hair, wearing a red dress and high heels. Can you conquer her?
SilentGuy99 4y ago
is this a joke?
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Probably a bot or some shit