"Hey, I overslept, I still have to do a lot I am not sure I can make it today. I will let you know later"

This is called an option date. It's a date at her option. It's a step back (show of disinterest). You handle this by making it a date at YOUR option. So you say this "Thanks, my day got mental too, I'll drop you a line if I get free".

Its not my first time that I have received a message like that from a girl. And to be honest, when I receive messages like that I get extremely angry. In my opinion, such a thing is just super selfish and not emphatic

It's deeply selfish, but it's also how dating works: with girls you are completely disposable until she fucks you, and society affords women every excuse for their flakey behavour.

For me, the first time there is any semi-flaking I stop making efforts or commitments to meet her. No going out specially, dates have to be convenient and fun and easy for me, eg somewhere I'm going anywhere, or something else to do if she no-shows. She no longer gets the risk/investment of her not showing up.

Nobody would write something like that to a friend. Why is it not possible to write something like this in the morning or the day before? That would not make me nearly so angry.

Because it's an option date. It's "I'll do this if nothing better comes along". And it's how girls operate, so learn to accept this and learn to do the same with them. You need abundance, but that's hard to do when everyone is flaking on you.

It's just how women are, accept it and work with it. And you are completely allowed to do exactly the same thing back to them, in fact I encourage it. Arrange 3 dates on the same day, stagger them by an hour, hottest girl first, and cancel the others when one shows up. We didn't start the flakiness, this is completely fair and resaonable.

In fact arrange all your dates to be option dates....... arrange them, cancel them, shuffle them around. Run it all at maximum convenience to yourself and ditch and that won't put up with it.

ignore this message and delete the contact.

This gets you nothing though

tell her that this is very disrespectful and then delete the contact

pointless. she knows. she doesn't care.

tell her that this is very disrespectful and that she should contact me when she has time.

see above

play along, don't let it affect you and just assume that the date will still happen.

Bad because you're always in the weak position. Make it an option FOR YOU as well, and then do your best to arrange something better than her.

This shit happens when you're attractive, but not so appealing as to look like her best option from what she knows so far. Sadly you've got to put up with it to a certain extent, but not so much as to just agree with her.

What would the thoughts of a man who has 2 other date prospects for that evening be?

"Humm, too bad for her. Guess it's drinks with Amanda instead of Kim tonight"

What is the reply said man would send?

"Sounds like you're unsure of your schedule, let's meet another time then"

Classic Corey Wayne "take away"

If it's a test, you've just passed. If it's low interest, now you know.

What her messages means :

She doesn't value meeting up with you as much as something or someone else. She would prioritize those other options over commiting to a meet with a guy she's unsure/uninvested in

She is also simultaneously testing your boundaries and state of abundance in that, the guy with options and respect for himself will respond one way and spark her interest, while a man in scarcity with low self-esteem will respond another way and decrease her interest.

I had this happen a few weeks ago, didn't have a time set though was just trying to set up a second date and I did 2 hahaha XD It may have been a mistake though. I think it depends on your level of abundance really. Cancelling on you and ruining your weekend plans is pretty shitty though. Ideally I think I should have done what you did and you should have done what I did lol.

I do have a small bit of advice on text game though. I think way better thing to say would have been something like "Oh, I get it. You're worried I will distract you too much eh ;)" "Well, youre probably right *laughing emoji or some sort8"

Depends on how pissed you are but depending on her reaction you might be able to prod her into doing her shit later or alternatively you could just put her on the bb with a "I guess some other time then, I'll let you know" and throw that shit back at her, but keep her as an option for later and maybe hit her up again in two weeks or w/e.