Honestly If the girl is not giving you any choosing signals, approaching does seem a little bit desperate

But I feel like cold approaching makes me look desperate. Why would a guy who has options ask out girls he doesn't know?

But if you don't do it, you wont have options.

As regards "looking desparate" - who the fuck cares?

I've read some posts on reddit and they all say that cold approaching and asking out girls makes the guy look desperate for a date.

This is dumb - as is most of reddit. Look.... by this rationale, asking a girl out is also desperate, trying to fuck her is also desperate, talking to strangers is desperate, etc etc. Most of this reddit shit (other than TRP which is great) is trying to keep unattractive men away from women. Women complain about being approached by unattractive men and try to shame them into not bothering, and they do this with the "desperate" label. But they only ever apply it to unattractive men. Drum this into your head, because it really is that simple:

All female complaints about men are directed at UNATTRACTIVE men. None of their negative comments apply to attractive men. "I hate men chatting me up, men chatting women up is desperate, men shouldn't fuck women, blah blah blah"....... it's all designed to control the unattractive. She'll always happily fuck attractive men who know what they're doing.

There is nothing wrong with taking steps to improve your sex life.

I'm thinking about cold approaching again at my local gym (obviously not going around from girl to girl like a sperg).

The gym is sacred, don't pollute it.

I'll tell you the two things that women think of as desperate:

• Being unattractive
• Being emotionally reactive / being beta / paying for sex by making compromises.

You think if she's approached by a hot guy who might be into her and is exciting and fun, that she'll think "wow, this guy is hot and fun and kinda solid and trustworthy and high status..... but I shouldn't be with him because he talked to me therefore he must be desperate"

Nope.... women do not logically reason things out like this. They go by feel, and ignore all logic.

Be attractive and you can get away with anything.

Be unattractive and everything is wrong and your fault.

That makes zero sense

You cold approach all the time. When you apply for a job and schedule an interview, that’s a cold approach. There’s no reason to not do the same to women.

You're overthinking it bro and looking for reasons not to step outside your comfort zone by approaching. If you're looking to rationalize it an alpha easily could have had a plate break and is looking for a baddy to fill the 5th spot on his roster.

A guy going over to a girl and confidently starting a conversation is inherently attractive. The only way it would look desperate is if the girl is giving you obvious signals that she's not interested and you repeatedly keep asking for her number/to go on a date.

I recommend working on your inner game. You're the prize and you're doing a favor by sharing your world with the girl. Even if she's not into you, your approach is probably going to be the most exciting thing that happened to that girl that day

You get options from cold approach lol, it’s about how you treat them once you start seeing them that shows you have options