Hey guys so I have what i perceive to be a flaw in my game. I am naturally dominant guy so girls usually behave well as i dont usually date bitchy girls to begin with (i have a strong vetting process).
Lets say you are spinning a plate for 1-2 months and everything is good, per usual in the beginning phases of dating. Good sex, good polarity, good behavior, good vibes. Obviously you will need to reward her GOOD behavior with attention and affection.
How do you do so on a consistent basis without coming across as needy? So the only version of you she knows is the one who smothers her with attention and affection, as she has not yet seen the disciplinary side that will come out in time.
Also, i have been told its not good to initiate affection either, and if im being honest, sometimes i am just not in the mood for cuddling or having a girl all up in my face when im trying to chill, and because of this i notice that sometimes i may be "punishing" their good behavior by not giving them attention to begin with, when they did nothing wrong, but again, this is a rare occasion maybe once every few times we hang out. im not moody but sometimes i like to jus chill and thats part of my appeal.
I notice that when i get back from a long day of work my plate will be all in my face after sex, smiling giggling etc but i feel like i dont have the energy to engage with that at times, and i think this sends the wrong message and i punish good behavior on accident. Again, this is a rare occasion but would like to know your guys thoughts on this.... im sure im not the only one.
illusivepigeon 4y ago
Affection is not needy if it comes from a place of abundance, and at times where it is warranted. If she's been pleasing you, making effort, behaving well and you've been having fun together, why wouldn't you give her attention and affection?
It's only needy when it's the opposite way around, when you are trying to get something from her by acting that way.
Scorpion69_ 4y ago
Having abundance and dgaf. U can perfectly tell her shes a goddess without being needy, coz neediness is in the mind
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Intrepid_Place53900 1 4y ago
You can initiate affection, it's ok, but she should initiate it (more).
She should want to please you. Reward her with your time and attention. Have her do something for you, make a good meal is a good one. Hannulv mentions this.
Tell her she's been a good girl, then pick her up and take her to the bedroom and go to town on her.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
That's basically married red pill stuff. Women will give comfort tests when they need comfort. Eventually you two fall into a groove. I have days where I just want to cum and go so I just leave her there and go do other shit. Then I have days where it's cold and I need a heater so I snuggle up to her all night.
SgtBuchannon99 4y ago
So is it too early to act too comfortable with plates? I believe that girls value guys who can sit in silence comfortably every so often, in my opinion its a big sign of a good dynamic. I usually dont do this until a few fucks in, i dont make it my first impression because girls can misinterpret it.
I can definitely see the 20 year married couple doing this, as well.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
It's just a natural cycle. I would even argue it is probably 3 ovulatory cycles but I'm just guessing and it probably varies from one woman to the other. Like she doesn't want to be around you when she's menstruating and you don't want to be around her after you just got mauled slaying the beast(work). Just use communication and tell her and if she respects you she'll comply. Sometimes I just tell my wife to stop talking to me about a subject I have no control over.
hannulv 4y ago
I reward good behavior with dates and by putting her to work. Have her make you a sandwich, bring you a beer, rub your back/feet, make you breakfast, suck your cock, etc.
A good girl is someone who loves to please you. Asking her for favors gives you plenty of opportunities for non-needy affection, as you can slap her ass, kiss her, pull her onto your lap and flirt, have her lay her head on your chest, etc. in these contexts without neediness.
The great thing about it is you can simply "punish" her by not asking her to do shit for you, which will be devastating.
https://youtu.be/vRYfouuHPvs