I get showered with it. Conscious in a day, during her orgasm, when I change possition in a bed 3a.m. and she barely wakes up.
Im wary of this shower. What are the chances of this being more innocent than evil.
11months in. Started 8 months ago, showers maybe 6m ago.
Red flags
- Mother stronger than father
- brother mostly separated for unknown reason from parents
- sister well post wall free
- you can see in her mother model
- post wall
- FWB
Main green flag
- helped big Time once (over several days), took days off and was very engaged
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
What makes you think it's evil? If it's constant and not done in a manipulative way it's probably just her normal behaviour from being very attached to you.
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Mixed signals (or being unstable) could mean manipulation.
BPD have 'love shower' symptom. I have no baseline for detection limits.
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
That's true, but im pretty sure that you'd notice it sooner if she was BPD. As a red pilled guy you'll understand what love bombing is when you see it i think.
hannulv 4y ago
IMO, BPD is usually the guy's fault. BPD is basically adult female version of toddler looking for boundaries. No man with serious boundaries is ever saddled with a BPD woman. And women who are normal in a relationship with boundaries can rapidly become BPD when they are with a man who does not enforce them.
BPD results from women feeling a loss of security when a man does not push back against their inappropriate behavior. This makes them feel crazy, unsafe, rudderless, exposed, and vulnerable. They not only feel like they need to become the man in the relationship, they feel crazy fucking desperate to get pushback, which leads to the constant anxiety and escalation of inappropriate behaviors until they hit your limit.
My guess is that female hardwiring makes them feel like this, because a man who won't push back is incapable of protecting them and their offspring.
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Lack of exp in that matter. And really not liking the idea of putting myself into that exp.
It was like 30 times in person last day (at the same time for a week she suspects I plate someone and goes trough motions from do you have someone to do you use condoms for ONS)
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Yeah ive been lucky enough to avoid BPD women so far.
Im getting some crazy-vibes from your description. Doubt i would put up with this. I'd be inclined to tell her to stop being annoying, and probably ditch her from the ensuing (im guessing) shitstorm.
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Ha. Apart from 1 incident she is fairly well in.control of her overreacting em9tions.
But she's petite and apparently trained 8n martial art
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
You haven't described any other signs that this could be BPD. I regrettably dated a BPD girl once, I know what it looks like but there are no other details to go off of here to answer that part of the post.
The fact that 3 months went by before this started happening instead of immediately probably rules out BPD in of itself. BPD girls won't even wait a week to lovebomb
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Week would give me baseline, but since.its 11months I hope I remeber right.
She's on some meds and displays some unruly behaviour which might come.from maternally ruled house (or not but to degree it fall into places).
Also showed me semi accidenttaly she hangs regularly with her fem friend and her bf (including long trip journey when I.ghosted and familly is far away) she calls her attractive. Guy looks beta but...
What meds can block BPD if used regularly
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
Does bf mean best friend or boyfriend in your comment?
Meds can't block BPD. It's not a mood disorder, you can't treat personality disorders with meds. Meds will only treat the anxiety and depression associated with BPD
Look up the symptoms of BPD
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
I was reading it in sidebar and elsewhere, apart from showers, morecrecently I'm being asked to be there for her (not often). Again innocent or symptom of one of the BPD characters. Can't see more.
Bf boyfriend
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
If she has a boyfriend and still has sex with you and showers you with love she's a massive red flag with problems anyway.
I still don't think she has BPD, you wouldn't be asking us if she had BPD, you would know it.
If her bf doesn't know you're together at all that's pretty non innocent. I don't think she has malicious intent showering you with love but she sounds toxic if her bf doesn't know about this
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
I rewrite below as it wasnt clear from get go.
She was on a long distance trip with her female work friend and this friend's boyfriend. She was on.her own (she is free with family far away, as of today no social media for showing off as far as observed).
She usually mentions hanging only in fem compnany otherwise.
But trip came out by accident.
Guy above looks beta but I looked beta dozen y ago in similar pics (mostly skinny, warm smile, friendly pictures)and I was fucking some of my gf, fem friends. With difference that my then gf looked really feminine and this one looks more like a leader on this trip.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
So the girl you're talking aboutthat you're seeing is single, correct?
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Yes Correct
Addendum Brother separated himself
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
Okay, I'm not really seeing what the problem is then.
She doesn't sound like she has BPD and she probably just really likes you.
I don't think it's bad intent for loving you the way she is
pfeilmacher 4y ago
She helped you when she was engaged to someone else? That's a HUGE RED FLAG.
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
She was very engaged in what she was helping him with, not engaged to another dude.
grilledcheesaroo 4y ago
I don't agree with the other comments. You're being baited purely on the fact that she is post wall & your FWB (if that is what you mean) ignoring everything else which adds up to it. Enjoy the poon while it lasts and DO NOT GET HER PREGNANT but otherwise I would not want to date an almost a year long FWB. Unless that is not what you meant.. so can you explain the FWB part?
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
Anything specyfic u r looking for except, Sex food sleepover occasional activity
whytehorse2021 4y ago
I wouldn't fuck her unless it was transactional. I mean I love me some post-wall used up hoe pussy with mommy issues and fucked up family but only if it's pay-to-play and then I never have to see her again. Oh God I miss Wan. She could fuck like a pro. Worth every penny. At least a decade of CC experience. She'd cum and then I'd cum and we'd exchange bodily fluids and virii and somehow the world seemed like a better place.