Hey guys. I made a post about how I recently failed with a women in a party and I felt very disheartened. But now I've decided to start approaching more so I'm going clubbing alone tomorrow.
I've always been quite anxious about approaching people alone, worried that people would judge me. But I've decided to get over this fear and go out alone.
My main goal isn't even to score with a woman but instead just have and good time and focus on improving my social skills. I want to approach as many starngers as possible and chat them.
The thing is I've never been anxious or felt awkward talking to new people but I still think there's a lot of improvements I need to make. I also feel extra fearless when I'm drunk but I don't want to drink alcohol either tomorrow. I want to enjoy the aura of the place and the people without alcohol. I want to learn to have good time without alcohol
Does anyone have some suggestions for me?
STAYShredded 4y ago
Look your best and get around like you own the place, when in a club it’s very easy to fake it till you make it bc ur only there for a few hours. I disagree with previous comment and suggest you stay away from other dudes mostly. They will hold you back and be threading for girls to approach you.
Pedal_Moonpower 4y ago
If to go by Roosh experience stay away from dudes, they will hold you back. But his opinion EVENTUALLY can be skewed by his previously good wing that went full white night when he met him on another occasion.
I cant say I do it myself. I use dud3s for social proof and getting in social mood (don't drink out at all]. But indeed most are super bad quality drunks, sober but spoiling the game bcs lack of basic knowledge, I happened to met some dudes possibly good at pulling but they cant see that you're not a girl and try to pull power shit on you (in search for pawn), and there is some sober ,ready to do stuff but anxiety to talk to girls.or.be rejected in front of you make them freeze up and bail. And then you get dudes thatvyou look for but they had so much bad exp that they can't be bothered to know you
Over 10/15 y I met maybe 3 decent wings from one same group.
thatssexistbtw 4y ago
start with cool guys. make eye contact in a good mood and start talking. it will make your anxiety go away. get away from thirsty and negative dudes
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Get an iced tea and stand by the women's bathroom. Hit them up as they're exiting. Just get numbers and bail. Aaron Clarey did this video where he explains how clubs are just women coming to the altar of attention. Most aren't even looking for a man, they want attention and free drinks.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
Clubs are loud and horrid.
Stick to bars where you can at least have a convo.