Even open marriages usually have a rule that you don't do it in front of the other person. You rubbed her nose in shit and now she's out to get you back.

This is part of the "good for the gander" mentality that girls have adopted along with imagining a 90 pound waif can kickbox down 30 Russian special forces agents armed with automatic weapons. One critical checkpoint in promoting a plate is confidence that she adores you and is seriously afraid to lose you. Girls that lash out this way either haven't been properly trained about what you'll tolerate, or they just aren't that into you.

A girl who adores you and is afraid to lose you will wait for your commitment and exclusivity. At the same time, rubbing her nose in other girl's pussy is a dick move.

I think OP is a girl, getting all bent out of shape that "he" is not the prettiest in the room.

It was disrespect bro. This shit test IS disrespect. Maybe she did it so openly because of revenge also.

Some females, no matter how submissive and nice they are, will do this disrespect in a relationship when you are a male with known options from the opposite sex. They are the ones raised and encouraged to be like a king, not you. This could be her true nature exposed. A "Cant be 2 kings" mentality.

"Her desire will be to rule man, and he will rule over her."

So yea, this is a shit test, a disrespectful one that imo should probably be responded with a serious convo and demotion, or a next. In the situation, you both are not stupid when it comes to relationship dynamics, but she still really treated you like an idiot simp. Maybe it felt like it was "technically" not a bad thing for her to do since your not officially dating, but its still on the same level of getting cucked because you do have history. So yea, its intentional gaslighting and disrespect 100%.

She fished for a guy in front of your face, so its also additionally possible she's planning or has already set up a monkeybranch off-camera. Her monitoring and flagging your behavior only serves to justify her mental (gives her permission) to why she's openly fishing on the sexual market and monkeybranching while still in a soft "relationship" with you. Her actions not words. Plates or plate material do not last forever. Your friend gets this, which is probably why he is essentially telling you to put her on the leash, or forget about her and her loyalty..

If some random girl came up to you in a bar talking about her boyfriend, what would you do? Call his boyfriend? And do you really think she's there to get counseling? Its a virtue chameleon thing girls do when talking to a guy, because as long as a guy is not autistic and gets the message, he can scoop her of her feet. She's out in the market no matter what she tells him, or makes you feel. But even so, she literally told you. She knows what she was doing and she cucked you.

Dont be the beta who thinks a girl is fully messing with you just because of looks, or because she does sexual stuff with you. She will reinforce your belief in that relationship dynamic with all types of emotional and vocal nonsense, all the while displaying 2 faced 'bro' or revenge behaviors to remove your frame and justify her monkeybranch tendencies.

I would cut her off just because of her pride against you. I think this is the masculine thing to do. Look for someone else less bold.

I agree with SheLarror. Even though it seems like she's interested in you and is doing this as a way to make you jealous and get back at you for having other options, it's overall a huge red flag. It's extremely disrespectful to be flirting with other men in front of you, much less your own friend. I would softnext her and caution against promoting her to anything past plate

A girl going for my friends at the same time is off-limits. I had this happen before.

I think your mistake was having your phone be in any visible angle for your other girl to see. Sounds like she's revenge flirting. Women have a ton of options but can't handle men having options as well

There is shit test and nuclear shit test, second is ending the interaction, summary in sidebar.

From.your.initial post you didn't see her flirting, only her fucking up with your head later.

I had almost identical situation. I let her talk quite a lot about this dude she works with and how constantly he's asking her out and whahtever. By her reaction to my response I.think it was very good.

you wont make me jealous, but certainly I can change my opinion about you

It was impoortant, that although my blood boiled initially, when I said.it it was calm and split in 4 sentences with pauses, and I had this soothing powerful feeling at this time, its very good to say.

For another year it was bliss, till she sluted up - once her always single friend came with visit, and I found out.

I like what SheLarror says. Shit test is disrepect, measured.

Wtf are these retarded replies ffs.

Had this happen many times.

If a bitch is shittesting you about other guys overtly, ask her if she needs some pickup line with shitting grin, then ignore. What disrespect what horseshit. This is solipsism 101, she want to get a reaction from you. You failed. Don't brush up dread in her face, this is what happens. Dread should be subtle.

By now you should know not to bring plates around your friends. Also, this behavior qualifies her as a plate only material.

It's a shit test. It's always a shit test when women bring up other men OVERTLY. A beta male will get insecure. An alpha will A&A or what not.