one thing you have to realize is that women are like predators. they sense weakness or ‘nice guy’ behavior in everything you do, say, even the expression on your face. its funny because its your mom that probably raised you like this. its going to take a while to break those habits but start small. say less please and thank you’s. dont smile as much. whenever women in your life ask you for things consider saying no even its its something that doesn’t bother you. in order to not be a nice guy you have to start being the bad guy

Inside every nice guy is an arrogant asshole waiting to be let out. Stop being ashamed of who you REALLY are and let out the arrogant asshole to play a bit.

So like in any skill that you are new to, you start off with low expectations and start with small actions.

Start off by not being polite to strangers. Don't hold the door open, don't say thanks. Don't say please. Don't give money to the homeless. Get very liberal in the use of the word "no" and go from there.

The theory is that if you can't even tell strangers no, if you can't even be rude to total strangers over small things, then how can you ever hope to have the strength to stand up for yourself with bigger things with people who matter in your life

Just like a weight lifter who is lifting for the first time, you start with low weights and go from there. You don't start off trying to lift the heaviest weight in a competition with no previous lifting experience: you're just going to fail.

And just like weight lifting: if you commit everyday to progress and stick with the program, you'll completely reinvent yourself in 6-8 months and everyone else will start settling into your new normal.

Forget about imminent change, unfortunately.

The easiest start is from easiest things, reprogram yoir thinking as it was programmed otherwise already.

Read books and read them again, look for real life conditions to reinforce these new teachings: people actions, behaviour.

Ie 48 laws of power. In one aspect the book.title is misleading. I have expected tiresome book about struggles of life and ways to.circumvent them with some boring laws. Although book is full of interesting anecdotes and real life stories with analysis (although accuracy of some stories look slightly stretched from my studies)

This is kind of book I would introduce to school to become compulsory at the age of 15-18

Read reprogram restart

Start by stopping certain things.

1) Stop talking so much.

2) Stop smiling so much.

3) When I talk to the opposite sex, most can be really friendly with me and sometimes sharing their feelings and all that stuff.

STOP doing that. Stop listening to women. Period. Stop giving women your time for free. Stop lettting them share their feelings with you. If you're going to be giving women your time, you need to be getting something back for it, and that "something" needs to benefit you.

The way you stop doing this is to be busy. Keep busy. You're a busy guy. You don't have time for women using you and taking advantage of you. You don't have time to listen to women share their feelings. You have shit to do. So go do it. Masculine competent guys have shit to do. If you have time to listen to a woman share her feelings, then you aren't busy enough and you don't have enough to do. If you don't have enough to do, fucking get busy and find things to do. Time you waste listening to a woman can be spent at the gym or with male friends or working or on your own hobbies.

If a woman expects you to listen to her share her feelings, then you need to expect her to give you something valuable. So your rule needs to be if you're giving a woman something, she needs to give you something back. If she's not, then cut her out of your life.

In general, the way you make this change is by not giving women anything that isn't being reciprocated. If you're doing all the giving, and you're not getting anything back, then you need to just stop.

Perhaps they see me, as I've said, just another nice harmless guy

Touch them to find out.

. I've always wanted to be seen as a masculine competent guy that both men and women look up to, the kind of guy women are attracted to and 'miring quietly.

Lift, be fit.

Seduce women.

Have you read Robert Glover´s "no more mr nice guy"? It helped me along my (ongoing) journey. It also features some breaking free activities, although it's basically asking the right questions for you to reflect on.

Also it sounds like you put women on a pedestal. But then again: you did not elaborate on your behavior in regard to males, so there's no data look into. Sounds like you yourself and your needs aren't the focal point of your "frame".