So i’ve been seeing this girl for about 2.5 months. Raised in a strict family, said she never did a one night stand, cares about her dad etc. Submissive to me, lets me do whatever to her and she cooks and cleans for me even though she caught me with other girls a few times. After that we agreed to be exclusive. She told my friend she liked me, so I listened to my friends and asked her to be official (mistake, I know. Should have waited for her to ask) and she said she doesn’t know yet she’s still recovering from her last LTR and needs to focus on herself. Keep in mind this girl sees me as dominant and assertive (she told me this) and I make her cum constantly and I believe i’m a solid 8.5/10 (tall, jacked, strong facial features and eyes).

I didn’t understand why she rejected me though. Does she have other options? Am I untrustworthy in her eyes? Is she lying and cheating on me? Despite all this, we make plans to have sex on the weekends and spend time together (travel, book hotels etc). She always agrees to the plans and wants me to meet her family in the upcoming weeks. However me and my buddy were discussing that I should be upfront next time I see her and say it’s not appropriate for me to be exclusive with her if we’re not dating (because she could be playing me and didn’t make her exes wait like this) and it got me overthinking and upset that it might be true. Should I just STFU and keep fucking and hanging and enjoying my time with her like an LTR and trust she’s exclusive until she brings up dating so I don’t ask again OR tell her what me and my friend discussed so I don’t get played and get an answer and waste my commitment? Not sure why she sees me as not dominant and not a top option if she is willing to have sex 3-4 times a week with me and follow/submit to me. I do like this girl and vibe with her after rotating 3-4 plates before her.