I don’t know what genre it is but I think “How to win friends and influence people” is a book on social intelligence. I want to make “Male Friends”, I was anti-social in college and now 1.5 years of college is left and I really want to make friends. My college is small so we don’t have any cool “clubs” and I also don’t have time for clubs. So I want to make friends with guys from my class but everyone has their own group, Hence it is difficult for me to be part of one.
I read that this book is outdated and does bot quite work in the modern era. So, can you recommend me any books on “How to win Male friends and influence them in 2021”?

Primalancestor69420 4y ago
You just need to go out and practice. Start by going on walks around neighborhoods or parks and wave/smile at folks that walk past you. Use Meetup or Eventbrite to check out things going on around you. Most people are super friendly. Go to the gym, chat with folks in the sauna. Ex: you overhear two people talking in there, try and ask a question and start from there. The more you do these things, the more comfortable you will be.
What do the guys from your classes do? If anything interests you, never hurts to ask. Something as simple as you don't know a lot of people around the town and would like to make new friends. If they are douches about it, then you saved yourself some time from being friends with shitty people.
This is your anxiety that gets in the way. We get in our heads and overblow things so easily. Like other comments suggest, put out positive energy, be interested in what they have to say, ask questions. Again, the more you do this, the more comfortable you will be with yourself and being social.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
HTWFAIP sucks fucking ass.
Make male friends by doing things you love and being awesome.
It's fucking dead easy. Go skydiving on a weekend and show pics on Monday. You'll have friends in no time so long as you're also interested in them.
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RealityHaise 4y ago
I just need a guide, I can talk easily but sometimes I can feel if someone doesn't want me to be invited, for instance, if I play some sports with them and then later...They wouldn't even invite me to join them for lunch or a food break.
hannulv 4y ago
"Captivate"- Van Edwards
Male friendships are more difficult in the modern world because they are based shared activities. Social hobbies such as sports teams, hunting, boating, rock climbing, etc. are good ways to develop male friends. Guys don't sit around and text each other all day, so you need a different mechanism.
Also, while there are endless female-only groups, male-only groups have almost been eradicated. Once girls infiltrate, the dynamic shifts and the magic is lost. I think the masons might be the only male-only club still in existence.
You can always start your own club and put in requirements like 40 pushups to join in order to weed out the ladies.
RealityHaise 4y ago
I have doubt, It's written by a woman...will it work?
hannulv 4y ago
It's basically the modern version of Carnegie. It is full of "hacks" to essentially stroke people's ego and manipulate them, and based on social experiments that failed to differentiate between male and female.
The main thing to realize is that male friendships are radically different than female friendships. Men have an initial barrier followed by full acceptance and organize based on a hierarchy of natural dominance and contribution. Women have full acceptance followed by an endless struggle to climb the dominance hierarchy.
RealityHaise 4y ago
Makes sense, Thanks dude, I appreciate it.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
My book has a chapter on this: https://www.amazon.com/Social-Autist-Autists-Allocentric-Universe/dp/B09HN2V6P6
Rollo did a video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y_KLe-q2Ivo&t=18s
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
I've never read that book but I really liked 48 Laws of Power and The Prince
User4566 4y ago
The best way to make friends in small colleges is to take science classes because they require group activities. You also could make study groups outside of it. You also should try to make friends with the Student Government Association. They are usually super smart people that could help you with your classes and introduce you to other people.
Tooktheredpill 4y ago
Check out all of Napoleon Hill’s books.