Last night fucked a girl after 1st date, anyway as soon as I put the condom on I went soft (both times)… bc she gave me god head I felt low key bad so I made her cum with fingers instead.
Anyway what are my options guys? Bc good old rollo always says to control birth which kinda means we always a need to wear a dom. Ngl I’m at a point now where I think fucking girls casually isn’t worth it purely bc you HAVE to wear a condom.
I’m tempted to start screening for LTR again so I can get her on the pill and start fucking raw… obviously there are still inherent risk doing this. Also I’m well aware that this shouldn’t be basing my decision for getting into a LTR
Thoughts?
pfeilmacher 3y ago
I fuck my main girl raw and can feel her IUD inside her. Not worried about her getting pregnant. When I'm on the road, I USUALLY wear a condom. I use Durex XXL, which are the most comfy condoms I've ever used.
coolsocks00 1 3y ago
You just need to get used to it, it's a mental block. Try to use it when fucking a plate or someone other than a ONS that you feel less pressure with. Dont stress and take your time. If thats not an option then use a condom while jerking off. Dont use silicone lube with them, use water based.
whytehorse2021 3y ago
A lot has changed since the 1980s AIDs era me and Rollo came up in. Nowadays you can get a vasectomy and then have it reversed when you want kids. Insurance may cover it too. All the STDs can be easily treated. HIV has been almost eradicated. HPV has a vaccine. HSV is pretty common and no biggie. Antibiotics cure the rest.
Pedal_Moonpower 3y ago
Decrease in STI rates was hard worked for, but in UK where I live they try hard to reverse it and that shows in increased rates 1-2 years before COVID.
STIs/STDs are treatable but antibiotics gets less potent with every year and when one antibiotic was 100% successful years ago now some of them are not. Gonorrhoea becoming apparently becoming most resistant.
Below are based on UK health system, don;'t quote me on that - this is what I remember and might not apply to 100%territory
I was getting tested few weeks after every new partner, also when suspicious to the point they blocked me from doing tests easy way and now I need to jump hoops. I found a way around, nevertheless I don't expect others to do the same.
test used to be fully anonymous [fake name, email], now with COVID you need extra: address, phone. You will get many women not wanting to do it; even previously in clinic maybe 1in6 was woman, I have seen some of them walking out not able to take pressure.
As a man unless you declared bisex, you will not get tested for HPV (only women get it) and there is plenty of types of HPV, only most common/dangerous have vaccine ( free for women, not for men). A s a man you can spread HPV at large you will not know about it and I will not pay for being discriminated.
Then any STI means 3-6 weeks without sex if treatment conducted proprly. Even if you get symptoms there is a lag in which you will fuck other plates meaning: Some broken plates and hopefully none of them from social circle. Then if you believe that plate had treatment then you need to believe that she is not sucking other dick that gave it to her in first place or she is not getting that back from other dick she fucked after you gave it to her, because she most likely didn't say anything to him.
And that text is coming from a guy that avoids condoms actively after the first time.
STAYShredded 3y ago
Cheers guys, sounds like maybe I should look into a vesect… I’ll be honest I think only 1 of the girls I’ve fucked this year actually wanted me to wear protection so obviously they aren’t worried about the STDs
whytehorse2021 3y ago
Yeah I mean sex is really about exchanging bodily fluids. If that doesn't happen then your entire purpose of having sex has failed. I got my genitals mutilated when I was a baby and so I can't feel shit with a condom so I've never used one. You're just exchanging STDs for reproductive imitation.
Hanscheezburger 3y ago
What type are you using? Durex sucks, just marketing. I like the Japanese ones (Okamoto I think). Even the girl would notice the difference. Ultra thin and sensitive.
I don't think your problem is with the condom though. My guess is anxiety and that you're thinking about it too much. Pop a pill every now and then or smoke a joint before sex helps
STAYShredded 3y ago
Nah I’m very confident it’s the dom… last weekend I fucked a ONS raw and had no issues (pull out method) but this week with the dom, had problems… granted the girl I went raw in was slightly hotter but not enough to make a difference imo
Axlerod9999 3y ago
thats how you catch stds . fucking randos raw
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