So I went with my college's ski club on a trip to a ski resort 21 hours away. I was at the bar the other night and met a girl that was super DTF. A little bit after meeting her and getting a lot of IOIs she grabs my hand and takes me outside. Outside are her two friends who are near blacked and on the ground lol. One of their guy friends says that he's going to take the three of them home - my girl was saying that she wants to stay here but the guy insists. I don't say anything. After that, I ask the girl if she's seen room 632 and she says no and that we should go check it out. Her friends start leaving without her and she says "oh no, my friends are leaving", she gives me her number without me asking and tells me to text her. We then makeout and she leaves.
The next day around 5:30pm I text her: Yo this is Daniel You should come check out my mattress tonight
Her: What Her: Is that your subtle way of saying you wanna sleep with me?
Me: Smart Her: Mmmm might take you up on that offer
2 hour later: Me: I'm going to a concert, I'll be back around 1 Her: Wait how the fuck are you getting into that concert?
Me: [Artist] said he wanted to see me Her: lol shut up Her: Get me in Me: nah Her: The fuck
Around 1 am I text her: I'm heading back now Yoloswag your ass over to room 632 [Hotel name]
The next morning she says: Absolutely not [Heart emoji]
I'm not going to respond and soft next her. I don't really care all that much about her but would love to know what I could have done differently the night of and when texting her. Thanks guys!
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Your texting is too direct. Even if she is DTF most girls want plausible deniability.
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NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
You got needy. But then again she was not really that down to fuck as it seems from the convos.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
meh, can't win 'em all.
She might not believe the concert joke/thing, that's fine but you should have moved on quickly.
Straight to your room in a strange hotel might be too much.
The heart/disinterest was playful and next morning.
Get her on her own for a super quick and easy date, fuck her next time.
320skew 4y ago
The best way to determine if someone is DTF is how easy she makes it for you and how little resistance she gives you for your escalation.
If she's making out with you and telling you that she's going to suck the soul out of you later on but declines any attempt to actually do that then she's not DTF. She's using you for attention and to boost her ego.
Now, there's an exception to that. She could be dealing with ASD or just throwing a shit test to see how thirsty you are.
The shit test is that she seems interested but you gonna chase. Low grade guys chase like crazy out of desperation. High grade guys start to pull away.
If she's into you and you start to pull away then she'll start to actually deliver because of FOMO.
It's obviously more challenging to do it over text but I'd say start pulling back a bit and responding less frequently but still flirty (almost like your losing interest) and switch to another venue that's in person.
Give her 2 or maybe 3 (if you feel that you can) chances then count it as a loss. Leave the door open but walk away.
Something like "Hey I'd love to see you more sometime. Hmu when you're free to meet up. Take care."
Ignore any text that's not a date.
That's basically a "I know what you're doing and I don't have time for it".
If she responds with a date. Then give her some slight flak and try to switch the script as you were interested in her but her games made you unsure and see if she qualifies herself. Don't automatically go back to trying to get her into your bed.
SeasonedRP 2 4y ago
Hard to say. Since she said she wanted to check out your room, you could have texted her an hour later and invited her over for a drink. Lots of things are going on with groups at resorts, so she could have hooked up with someone else the night you texted.