Quick background: At 16 when I came to my new high school I was a 62kg 185cm loser, with no social awareness, friends, girls or anything of value. I was a walking loser basically. I was the doormat for all bullies and I had no idea how to fight verbally and psychically. I was a huge nice guy also. Quick forward 4 years later (now). I am 92kg and 186cm and I actually respect myself and am not a nice guy anymore.
Today's question: I was in school, watching the volleyball between some classes and this guy who is my schoolmate came up to the bag we were lying on, nothing weird. Now this other guy was livestreaming and now the guy who came (the schoolmate) started grabbing me by the throat and shit. I told him to stop doing that and I grabbed his throat back and pushed him away. He just kept on doing it, but I was telling him to stop because he's fucking annoying now.
We get back to class and as the period ends, I had a piece of paper and I throw it at the guy's head. After that, I gave him a solid punch in the ribs and pushed him with force. He though I was joking, but I gave him another punch in the face and the ribs, but then the teacher came in.
And I never say anything offensive to this guy, I basically don't even talk to him because he's toxic and I just ignore him for the most part, but he just keeps on talking to me and saying stupid shit or like poking me all the time.
Now my question is why doesn't he leave me alone, because I never say shit to him, am not disrespectful in any way, but he just keeps on disrespecting me. People in general don't respect me in the school and I think that comes from my reputation of me being a nice guy all these years. But now that I have changed and will not tolerate bullshit and disrespect people are starting to slowly take me a bit serious, but still not to the degree I want them to.
Onestepeveryday 2y ago
Here in South America its common to have greater degrees of bullying. I never understood USA movies or TV shows were bullied people doesnt fight back. Beat the shit out of him, one, twice, many times as need. Retard people just understands with violence.
I had a big stuttering problem in middle school and every year a guy that didnt know what I was capable of doing tried to bully me. I beat the shit out of all (except one that I couldnt win, but it wasnt necesary he didnt had it easy and stopped), and they stop.
Thats my take on bullying. Its a very 1990-2000 thing, now people its more PC dont know how boys handle it now with all that Fortnite and minecraft culture.
redhawkes 2 2y ago
This. 'Bullying' is just a natural selection, separating the chaff from the wheat. Every kid I know who was the butt of the joke or bullied, grew a thick skin and have fully functional life. One of my classmates was carrying diy nunchaku in his backpack, for a month lmao.
Now, look what's happening with this generation of special snowflakes. Weak faggots who post shit like OP. You have no idea how fast 'bullying' disappears after a couple of broken noses.
As for the shit talking, just ignore or use Amused Mastery. Pressure flip aka reframing works the best for jesters.
Onestepeveryday 2y ago
I agree this generation its full of snowflakes. And that overcoming bullying grows you a few hairs in tue chest. I hope OP has the balls to beat that fucker until he yields. I will always tell my kids to fight back on school if picked on.
NotGoodWithUsernames 2y ago
You are a literal tank, just beat the living shit out of him. Careful tho, you don't want to kill him or smth.
_Nsh_ 2y ago
Yeah but why does he got to do all of that in the first place. I didn't do him any harm, so why is he trying to pick something with me all the time?
NotGoodWithUsernames 2y ago
None of your bussiness, you should have more important things to worry about in your everyday life. Your job is to fuck him up.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Just treat it like shit tests. Men will always compete for their place in the hierarchy. I wouldn't be surprised if you're displacing this guy that is shit testing you.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Attempting to gain dominance over you to look good to others.
It's not "being nice" that's the problem. It's being a pushover that's the problem.
You're right not to be a pushover, but you also have to be someone who "has value", someone seen as successful (or potentially so), confident, attractive etc. Being "not a pushover" is not enough to be popular.
_Nsh_ 2y ago
so how can I stop being a pushover?
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Don't do what people tell you to do. This means doing what YOU want to do, rather than what OTHERS want you to do. If they want something that's fine, but it gets negotiated so that it's good/fair for you. And this always means they give first, not you. You doing what they want for a promise of later puts you in a weak position. Talking of which, don't let others put you in a weak position. Be the force in your own life rather than a pawn being pushed around in other people's. Live by your own values rather than those of others.
The real trick is doing the above with wit and charm.