So have posted about this field report previously, she was showing a lot of red flags ( friends with guy she slept with in a group of mates, saw no issue meeting for coffee with an ex )
Anyway I demoted her to FWB and actually enjoyed hanging out with her and her snitching on herself.
Was in London with a friend and was texting and dropped by hers in the way back. She tells me when I get there ( after I ask what happened to her plans) that her date cancelled.
This made me feel like she was treating me as second choice something which she tried denying saying she would have made plans with me if I was available but felt like this cap.
She tried to get with me and everything ( typical woman when you’re turned off she’s on in fact when we stopped dating she was way more submissive) but wasn’t feeling it and left and she tried having a go at me.
What’s your guys take on it?
pfeilmacher 2y ago
So much drama.....you seem to be a little too emotionally invested in her.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
FWB's = no commitment. Why are you so attached?
Not a discussion you should be having with a FWB, or anyone really.
You are too invested and are relying on covert contracts to keep her attention. You should be employing level 99 DGAF-mentality and enjoying her.
OPPTRP 2y ago
Tbh I’m not attached but my ego has been dented as she has been showing me she’s interested now but I don’t want anything more with her. Need to remove my ego.
What do you mean about the discussion part ?
Yeah true fair enough. Thanks for your analysis I think because we dated before then went FWB rather than straight into it my ego was hurt.
I’ve had FWB from the off and didn’t bat an eyelid from shit like this.
Toxicking101 2y ago
When I chew some gum and it loses its flavour, what do I do? I spit it out and get more gum with flavour that I enjoy.
pofkaf 2y ago
You "demoted" her to an FWB. So what was she before, your LTR? If so, how long did you vet her and why did you enter an LTR with her after noticing her red flags?
FWB /= plate. They are two separate levels.
Read the sidebar again. There is a post about the levels of commitment. You need to brush up on that.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
You're right... but only if it's always as a second choice. IF she sometimes hangs as first choice, it's fine.