Its my first post, I been lurking aroud here and /marriedtrp since a few months, had read the sidebar and other material, im still having troubles putting into work all the things I read and its a change thats going to take a while. Been improving myself in the way of lifting, having a better diet, and taking care of my looks a lot more.
First of all I went through a divorce a few months ago, after being red pilled by force. A few weeks ago I felt ready to test waters with girls, mostly on IG.
So far I have a few low SMV girls after me, dated a cute girl until she told some shaddy stuff that was a red flag to me, have a sexy girl sending nudes but never wanting to meet (the nudes are not personalized so she must be sending them to more guys at the same time, im sure of it). And yesterday I went out with a girl a lot younger than me and with high SMV, the date was supposed to be short cause we both had to go work early, but we overstayed cause time flew past, we had a few beers and chated a looooooot, she was really talkative (wich its super rare in the dates I went). She laughed lots of times, we made eye contact a lot of times and I though about scalating with her, until she told me she had friends that always missunderstood their relation and she had to put an stop to them trying to get all kino with her. So I decided to chat like 30 minutes more and depart, I gazed my watch and told her I have to go, she wanted to stay but well I really had to go. Things is I though it was just a friendly date, so after she asked if I arrived home fine and told she wanted to meet again but she inviting the beers next time, I went full sail ahead by chat and she told me she liked me but she was afraid I was going to hurt her (she had 1 bad relation a few months ago), I reassured her we were just starting to know each other and that I wasnt going to hurt her if we were straight about what we wanted (no commitment in my case). We started to flirt hard, and and did some sexting, we agree to meet again tomorrow she even told me she was going to buy lingerie for me, and made me choose wich one I wanted. I was kinda horny and asked for a sexy pic, she denied hard and I tried to push it a little (lots of mistakes there, no need for asking for pics if she was into fucking in 24hs, and pushing it was worse).
Now I told her "How can you be scared of pics when we are supposed to meet and do even more naughty stuff tomorrow" and she told me she was uncomfortable with the topic, so I dropped it and told her that wasnt my intention and that i didnt mind if she didnt want it, she asked if I was mad and I told her "no" after that I went to sleep and when I woke up I saw a few messages of her telling she felt sick physically and that was going to skip work. Probably she will think im bad cause I didnt replied that and went radio silence. Any way to turn up this mess up?
Excuse me, my writting skills suck.
TLDR: I dated a girl, date went good but with friendly vibes, we chat after that and she tolds me she likes me. We start sexting and even put a date to do the dirty bussiness. I ask for sexy pics and she goes a few steps back. turn around?
OPPTRP 2y ago
Yeah I don’t ask for nudes for this reason anymore, it’s instant gratification for something you will be getting if you play a longer game not even necessary a long game.
Onestepeveryday 2y ago
Yeah, a few moments of self reflection were enough to see a few fuckups besides the nudes part. Damn horny me haha
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
She sounds like fun, although unstable..
Seems like you know your most obvious mistakes. Going too hard on the texting here, coming off as needy.
Also could be salvageable. Pretend like you didnt send those needy texts and keep the interaction centered on logistics. If she's texting a lot tell her to prepare her lingerie, you're busy.
Onestepeveryday 2y ago
Solid advice here. This its the feedback I need. Yeah needyness its an easy pit to fall into if youre not focused, its hard to be on guard about what to do or what to say. I think time will make it more like a second nature.
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Onestepeveryday 2y ago
Its like walking on thin ice hahaha I though snapchat use was just that. If you wouldnt bail for that comment she would bail for another little thing, dont beat yourself hard for it. We will improve and have less mistakes.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Most girls do not want to feel slutty. Get to know them a bit first before you do that stuff. After you have sex with em then it should be fine.
Toxicking101 2y ago
What a fucking essay over fucking nothing. All you need is this quote:
“You can’t fuck a picture” - A great man
So don’t ask, it makes you look needy, If you get them randomly, great! But don’t fucking ask.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
please just summarise
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Engaging logically with women won't work.
But to answer: in person she has control. She also has a fun positive upside. If she doesn't like you she can walk away. If things go well she'll get hot sex.
Pics she has no control over. Girls are terrified you'll share her pics online or with her family or friends or whatever. She has no control over that. And most importantly: she has no upside to sharing pics. She's scared you won't find her attractive, and even if you do what does she have to gain? No girl orgasmed from sending out a pic.
Onestepeveryday 2y ago
An update: Later that day she talked to me as usual, shes very into texting and im trying to cut it out, but I dont wanna look like a douchbag for not replying. The date its still in horizon, she confirmed me for tonight at 20:30hs and even send me a picture of the package with the lingerie I order her to buy for tonight!. Told her: "No spoilers, I wont show you my surprise yet either." Now shes pushing me to tell her, I will let that hamster spin.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Reassure her, tell her you hope she is okay and such, maybe ask if there's anything you can do but don't mention coming over, she is looking for the thought not the action. She just came out of a bad relationship and is testing if you are chill with the sick thing would be my guess based on all this context.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Anyway hopefully she doesn't have read receipts. Tell her you just got back from errands or something and you hope she is feeling okay etc.