20 likes 7 matches Accidentally boosted my profile, didn’t know I had it.
Messaged my matches and was hit with an excuse each time. “ I’m getting drunk tn” “umm I just-“
Need some profile feedback and some advice on good openers. Don’t know how to approach OLD since it’s not like real life.
Tooktheredpill 2y ago
Dating apps are a waste, unless you’re in the very top percentile. Use seeking arrangements.
ash00000 2y ago
being bisexual I will tell you that I cannot see your face properly, therefore won't meet up with you. Maybe link to your instagram or something
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
Check out Jason Momoa for how to wear long hair.
Corneliuscaruso 2y ago
I'm not sure if it's holding me back on tinder. In the field, my hair and glasses have helped me peacock. I can't carry myself the way I do in real life because it's through a phone. Do you have examples of being persistent without needy? In my head every time I think about following up I talk myself out of it because there wasn't enough desire in the first place.
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NeoSpartan 2y ago
I don't think most girls have ever liked long hair on dudes.
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NeoSpartan 2y ago
Celebrities don't count.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
What do you send them in your first message? Most guys fuck up at that step right out the gate.
Also, there are other reasons this could be, judging by your photos and bio here are my comments Quote marks are my own, just using them as headers:
Because they probably swiped right on the first photo they saw (purposefully or not), without reading anything or looking at the other photos. Then they looked at your bio and all pics after matching and changed their mind.
Black and white should only be on one photo max, should also be some visually appealing reason for a black and white photo, not just cuz.
Not sure if girls are all that into long hair nowadays. All the guys I see that look like Chads have shorter hair. Maybe this matters maybe it doesn't, I don't know.
Lift more, get ripped. Buy a gym membership.
You have sunglasses covering your face in virtually every photo. It's not possible to see your facial features, how are they supposed to evaluate if they would know if they're attracted to your face if they can't see it?
In your photos, be doing more interesting stuff. You have a hiking photo which is good, but you're barely in it, rendering it ineffective.
Include more personality in your photos, hobbies, passions etc. Stuff she should see and think you have an interesting life.
Getting verified helps, a lot of women get catfished on tinder and feel more comfortable having verified matches
Your bio is meaningless with one word. I've experimented with a lot of bios, and I've come to the conclusion that something short (like two sentences) is long enough to convey some personality but short enough to not look needy
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Can't see your eyes and theyre all in B&W
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Write something weird that will make them curious I guess. I fucked around with tinder a couple days ago. Said some shit about turning into a werewolf. Then transitioned into regular convo. Wasn't really trying to meet up tho, just was bored. About half responded at least once. The one that was a little fat jumped right into asking for a hookup, which.. lol I was just talking about exercise with her.
I did the boost thing too, had an offer for gold for 15 bucks and I wanted to see my likes, unfortunately most of them were fat XD Weirdly enough most of my matches are quite hot, it's like there's no 5s on there just 2-3s and 7-9s. But.. I think that's probably because the fat girls do the blind swipe shit like guys do.
I considered having sex with a midget also. She was quite hot for a midget and it would have been an interesting life experience. She deleted her profile yesterday though :(
Also, a tip, if you change your pics it hides your profile for like 2 hours or something. I totally wasted my free boost not knowing that :/ So how badly did I fuck up? What is the normal number of matches you usually get?
But wait "I'm getting drunk tonight" sounds to me like an invitation? Why did you think it was an excuse? "Great! I totally could use a drink, where you headed?"
Corneliuscaruso 2y ago
I bought gold once a couple months ago and was disappointed, had some planets, toothpaste hair, and bottom of the barrel organisms.
I didn't know about the pic thing, I haven't changed mine in 2 weeks. I usually get a match every couple days.
Yeah, I could've but she stays by my college 30 min away, and I have work today. That's a good line, gonna use that.
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Corneliuscaruso 2y ago
I bought tinder plus I believe which is the cheapest option. They give you a free boost every month.
NotGoodWithUsernames 2y ago
I don't know what the standards are here, but in a girl's eyes the dude is max a 3/10. Certainly not good looking as some have stated here. No hate, but lets be realists. Level up before you use Tinder, or even better just don't use it at all.
Corneliuscaruso 2y ago
Nah 3/10 is too low. I've been a 3/10 fat/wearing basketball shorts. Not trying at all on tinder just sounds like bad advice, how are you ever supposed to get better?
pfeilmacher 2y ago
The sitting pics need to go. You are closed up in those.
Open your body up, don't clasp your hands together or even put them in your pockets. Project BIG without looking like a douchebag. Look at the camera with confidence.....don't tilt your head down at all.
You've got a good look, great hair (maybe consider changing your hairstyle if you're not slaying pussy after you make other adjustments.).....you're just not advertising yourself effectively. Also, put some muscle on, bro. You have most of what it takes to slay pussy already, if you learn how to use what you have.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Pay money for matches. If you were an online dating app, and people would pay money for matches, what would you do? You'd give matches to people who paid. Reel those suckers in.
Matches are not reality.
Your pics are nice, good looking guy although skinny.
They don't scream sex though, and when it comes to Tinder this is what women want: they wanna see some flesh and it had better be top tier flesh at that.