Hey Everyone,
I'm a 20 yo college student. A couple of months ago I met this girl and we immediately hit it off. From the beginning on she was super into me, with her even arranging dates, etc. She also seems very solid, religious background is pretty innocent, and apparently low body count. However, here comes the problem. Like most girls her age, she loves to party. So a couple of weeks ago she decided to sign up for a college trip. At that time things between us were still pretty casual, but from the time of her signing up to now, things got a lot more serious between us with her telling me that she hasn’t been seeing me exclusively. Here is the problem. I don’t really feel comfortable with her going on this trip. It’s basically all about drinking and it’s half girls half guys, so you can imagine how that's gonna go. But because we are not in an LTR I didn’t really feel like I could tell her not to go as she had already paid and everything. Now how do I proceed when she comes back. I don’t fully trust her yet so how do I know she didn’t just hook up with a bunch of guys? She says she's never hooked up with anyone, but I don't know if I can trust that.
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 2y ago
You treat her like a permanent plate, as in, she can never get promoted past plate. Maybe FWB but no more.
Why? Because she's in her party years and is going to a party trip (where girls slut it up like mad because there are so many guys that "don't count" from out of state etc.)
Put 2 and 2 together man. Does it seem plausible she has a low body count? She's currently plating two guys or more at once. this doesn't pass the gut-instinct test
again, doesn't pass a common sense test of gut sense given everything else you've said about her
Exactly, there's nothing you can do. Telling her not to go would be beta as hell, where as if you were to have been in an LTR you would have a warranted reason for being skeptical of it.
Save yourself the mental anguish of finding out later through trickle truths that she was a whore on this trip that she'll go on and was never LTR material to begin with
Girls in their early 20s are peak carousel riders, build your value instead of looking for LTRs in the hoe goldmine that is college
redhawkes 2 2y ago
Fuck off with this oneitis already. This "LTR" is only in your head, an illusion you created. Relationships are not your prerogative, it's hers.
Lmao my sides. Get your head out of your ass bro. Don't be Captain Save A Hoe. Smash until the plate breaks, she's not LTR material and you're 20 ffs. Fuck other chicks.
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