Maybe you're just attracted to traumatized women. I went through that phase. Something about their behaviour triggers a man's altruistic instinct. For a while all I could find were rape victims. It looks like innocence so maybe that's why. Try getting less innocent looking women.

Personally I havnt experienced girls being forced into anything while I am with them... However may of the plates I have had told me that they've been raped before prior to meeting me. IMHO if they arnt prepared to go to the police about it, it wasn't fully rape. Probably rather just the girls regretted what they did the next day.

Regarding the text this girl has sent you, dude she sees you as an orbiter you're obviously playing the nice guy shower to cry on bases on the nature of what she has said.

Try being an asshole more, it works a treat... It will be a hard battle trying to re teach yourself how to act but you WILL see results. Girls love fucking guys who don't play by the rules, including being a bit mean.

Ur on the right track tho dude, identifing that you might be the problem is mature AF and if you continue to do this you will go places!

Why did the message make you anxious? If a plate sent me this text i would probably just next her, or tell her i'm sorry to hear about it, and tell her to get in touch when she feels ready. You're not her psychologist or her boyfriend.

About the other plates it's probably a coincidence. Maybe something happened and they tell you about it to make you simp for them or to try to get you invested in "protecting" them. Or maybe they just lied for the same reasons.

You should vet your plates for a number of reasons. You want to avoid angry boyfriends, BPD girls, plain needy girls, etc. IME girls who put themselves in bad sexual situations (bar the occasional actual assault) are girls with some issues or simply needy sluts i dont want anything to do with.

I've been told by each gal that the encounters were forceful/nonconsensual

It is completely standard for girls to exaggerate their lives into rape stories. She has sex, then later looks for reasons why it "wasn't her fault", and this gets changed into rape for max sympathy. Eg "I never consented to sex with him" really means "I never actually said the word 'yes' as I straddled him and begged for his thick cock".

is the problem a lack of vetting? My behavior? A lack of Frame? Is this a somewhat normal occurrence?

It's completely normal for them to exaggerate past abuse in order to get sympathy.

It's also completely normal for women to cheat, and then later say it was rape when it wasn't. That way you can't dump her: she didn't consent to it.

I wanted to let you know that I'm definitely not up for anything sexual at the moment I love spending time with you and everything,

You know about AF/BB right? Don't be the BB guy.

I mean, being forced into sexual acts isn't my ideal way to spend a Tuesday night, right? I didn't think it would bother me as much as it is but since it was my apartment I just fell... gross.

Somehow I don't think someone broke into her house and raped her. She isn't using the word rape. She is using the word "forced" and "sexual acts". Most likely this is "I just kinda didn't know how to say no to the guy from Tinder that I invited over to watch Netflix with".

Either the gals I'm dealing with don't want to take accountability for their actions, or something bad actually happened

AND IT DOESN'T MATTER WHICH IT IS.