Hi guys, Ive been in LTR with this girl for the past 10 months now and everything has been going smoothly. Shes in love with me and very submissive. However, over the past month i dont know what has been happening to me but i feel like im losing my game. Im not exactly becoming weak but i find myself often not knowing what to say, how to behave etc and ive found out that shes been more annoying me and shes done nothing wrong?
Before meeting up with her I always plan what we do, what ill say, it will be fun, blah blah blah but then the moment comes I like shut myself and have no motivation to be charming, enthusiastic, i dont know what to say.. What the fuck is going on? Am i bored or what? Its been happening for a month now.
This is a girl who is in love with me and wants a future with me, does lots of things for me, always initiates contact etc.
I didnt used to be like this with her. Whenever we met up before it was always fun, now its like i dont know, so different and i dont know how to handle this. I often dont know what to say anymore and feel like im losing it and myself but it turns out the girl is more and more in love with me ? Please if anyone has been in similar situation, give me some advice. thanks.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
You could start planning this future together. Talk about when/where to have kids if any. Where to live. What roles you two will have in a relationship. This is where you lay out your frame and she fits in. Yeah you may get bored with each other and that's why you have bros, tribes, hobbies, etc.
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
How often do you meet during the week?
Amazonforest 4y ago
Twice a week. I always stay over at her place. Max 3 days but rarely
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
Just skip a meeting and you will be fine. Don't jerk off for 3-4 days prior too.
Amazonforest 4y ago
I think Maybe that is a problem. I do jerk off like 2 times a day.
NotGoodWithUsernames 4y ago
Yeah, that is definently the problem
shootinglikekobe 4y ago
Ya i second this. This is 100% the problem lmfao
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
Do you want to be with her?
Are you concentrating enough on what YOU want?
Maybe bored yes.
Is this what YOU want ?
Amazonforest 4y ago
Yeah, I do want to be with her. I want to be with her and i want her to be the way she is now but it's never enough?
master-of-losers 4y ago
Spend less time with her, start doing more exciting things in your life and give her time to do more exciting things too, and soon you'll both have more stories to talk about!
You should be hanging out with her because you enjoy hanging out with her, not just because she's your girlfriend.
shootinglikekobe 4y ago
This is normal, hate to say it but many times (not all) this is the precursor to cheating. You simply get really comfortable around your girl to the point that you become desensitized to it. Gaming other girls isn't necessarily an answer bc it could backfire and make you stop wanting her all together.
I'm sure there's something in the sidebar relating to this. It's perfectly normal and happens to most guys when in an LTR. It always leads to my downfall (don't know how to get past it w/ girls tbh lmfao, usually end up moving on), but I'm sure there's a way you can spice things up to become attracted to her again.
Switch up stuff in the bedroom, take a trip w/ her, do some different kind of dates; these are my assumptions on what works.