After reading TRP a lot, I have decided to go out there and initiate with girls. I'm a freshman at a huge college, have made out with 3 girls + fucked one, but those were all from parties. I've always had approach anxiety, but I am forcing myself to approach one girl each day and ask for her number—starting tomorrow.
I also want to make a tinder profile to have the possibility of more options. I came into college 125 pounds, 2 months in I'm 135 and making some progress in the gym (not great, squat 175, bench 110, deadlift 205 — but increasing every week). I don't have many photos of myself, and I'm going to include some photos I am considering including (is tinder game essentially the same in a college town as a big city?).
I'm also not sure how I rate on the SMV scale, but I don't think I'm that great. I am 1) bad at noticing IOIs and 2) don't think I get many. I'm trying to improve that through lifting 3 times a week, but I'm still a small guy and 5'9", not the most charismatic.
STAYShredded 4y ago
Daygame in college is awesome, it'll take you a little while to get results form only 1 approach a day, however, it's more the fact that you are actually approaching rather than getting numbers etc. DG will get you to a point in your life that you are more confident and able to do extreme things that 99% of guys cannot.
Check out this website I came across last night, looks fairly new he seems pretty knowledgeable and the website is slowly building.
https://covertcasanova.com/approach-anxiety/
chickengod 4y ago
I'm nervous, but also excited at the possibilities. I need to force myself not to chicken out and just do it. Thank you for that website
What do you think of my possible tinder photos? Absolute shit or would they be alright
STAYShredded 4y ago
Brah tbh I wouldn't dick around with tinder... Just focuses on putting girls on a pedestal essentially. And it'll destroy you getting low matches. You need to be top top of guys to get matches on tinder. Personally I've had no success on tinder, havnt even gotten with a chick from tinder, yet, when I go out clubbing I will pretty much have my choice of girls. Focus on daygame, you'll get better results and will develop you overall.
chickengod 4y ago
I'm with you man, day game should be good, as well as the bars. I hit up the frats the first few weeks with alright success, but I can't get in anymore. I hear the bar scene is good here, so I shouldn't be losing much!
I didn't even consider tinder until now, because apparently tinder edu is a lot different from the regular tinder. My buddy, who is better looking than me, has 150+ matches in a few weeks and says there's a ton of opportunities
Corneliuscaruso 4y ago
Find a clothing style. Start with this, go get some black jeans and a v neck tee. You can pull that off. I’m speaking objectively, lose the awkward smile. This step is optional but it’s not, disregard others and be an asshole. It will look bad to some (beta bucks) but irresistible to others. Don’t be a dick though, break/bend the rules and people will admire it, but do it because you want to, not for them. If you think that’s not your personality it’s because you can’t imagine it. Play this role until you’re the mountain biker who can’t find a fuck to give. It’s raining pussy.
This was a very one sided confrontation.
Burn this into your brain.
Lol
chickengod 4y ago
Are you talking about the third photo? If so, what can I do to change that... it's my natural smile.
As for the other stuff, you are spot on. It's a fine line between asshole and dick. I think most people would describe me as a nice guy, though I don't think I'm one of the "nice guys" in NMMNG because I can set boundaries (though I have little experience, so what do I know). It's gonna take some work to be more of an asshole
Corneliuscaruso 4y ago
You have to be a bit narcissistic in the way you think. Instead of putting others on a pedestal, put yourself on it. Then you’ll see others putting you on that same pedestal. Want to learn how to become more of an asshole? Watch Andrew Tate on yt lol. If that’s your natural smile then just don’t smile, don’t hug your friends, and don’t take pics with people if you’re the shortest.
My smile sucks and I’m short. I don’t smile(pics), when I’m confronted about it I just say I don’t smile. Serious but exaggerated. If you keep pushing me to smile you can fuck off because I already said I don’t smile. Mimic this behavior, stand your ground. Me don’t want to do that? Me not gonna find a way to hold the peace. Me say what me think. Me don’t give af.
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chickengod 4y ago
Yeah I've never been the one to have a ton of photos of myself, so naturally the best ones I have are terrible.
I found this article and I'm gonna try to copy a few of these.
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koedeloe123 4y ago
Honestly, you have a lot of potential. If you keep lifting, put on some mass, and improve your fashion, you can definitely slay. But, your Tinder pictures are horrible. The first one reminds me of a wanted criminal. On the second one, it seems like you have no taste in fashion. Third picture is alright, but it makes you look small next to those tall dudes. Fourth and fifth picture are not really good either.
Ditch the online dating apps, practice cold approaching. You're going to get rejected, it's part of the game. I'd say you're a 5/10 now. Maybe a 6 because you have a decent face. If you become more charismatic, lift, improve your fashion, you can easily become an 8/10.
hannulv 4y ago
Ditto on the photos. If you're going to post a pic with guy friends, it needs to be obvious its a photo of you, not a where's waldo? Also, you need to look like the leader of the group in the pic. Pics next to taller, stronger, more fun looking guys does not sell you, even if you have a better mug. Multiple pics with guys and no girls sends a "virgin" vibe.
shootinglikekobe 4y ago
Your doing good! Def. on the right path, I wish I knew about TRP my freshman year. Just stay consistent w/ the gym, make it a habit/routine that you wouldn't dare skip. Everything else will come with time. Freshman year is the best year to set the precedent of who you are/how you operate for the rest of the time in school. Be highly social, join orgs, but don't forget why your there in the first place (grades).
whytehorse2021 4y ago
5'9" is average for a man in the US btw.