I'm pretty good with girls in person, but if I don't fuck that night and we move to texting, my rate drops dramatically and all I do is simple banter then invite.
For example: https://imgur.com/a/L1e2KB3
Info: I met her at a party, Made out, and then I hit another party with my group as it was still hella early. Hit her on the phone bout 3 days later and she seems hella interested, 2 minute reply times or less.. I banter for 2-3 texts then invite her out giving her 2 dates I'm free, she says she's working but doesn't reschedule... She then shit test me, I shut her down.. and have left her on read since. Might hit back in 3-4 Days..
My question is what's wrong with this interaction? I'm reading it as she doesn't want to see like a hoe or something, but she's interested.. however, I'm not sure, am I guessing right? Before you assume I have oneitis, No.. I'm just curious about the possible psychology happening in this interaction so as to apply it to a few others and future references. Thanks.
nightlyphoenixx 4y ago
I've been thinking about text game for quite a while. My view is that banter doesn't travel well on text, and can often turn into an ego battle that turns the woman off. Your text is a good example: "look at you talking back at the boss" is a good line when said with a cheeky grin and maybe a slap on the arse, but in a text you don't have those options. That puts us at a disadvantage off the bat. As I'm sure you know, it's not what you say it's how you say it, and by text the "how" goes out of the window.
As to the actual back and forth, I think you did well given the limits of the medium. If it had been me, I would have done a couple of things differently, maybe you can try them next time and see if they work: 1. I'd have waited a little longer before asking her out, build a little trust first 2. I wouldn't have offered 2 days: "I'm going to the Sticky Fox on on Wed, if you get there by 7 there's a drink with your name on it".
I'm not a fan of texting, but this might help: https://www.jamestusk.com/texting-women
Good luck!
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AllMyHoesWearJoggers 4y ago
Ok, Thanks.. Yes, I agree she is too bratty. This has happened to me at least 10+ times however with seemingly High interested girls so I thought there might be an underlying reason I'm missing. Sometimes it will be paragraphs + a quick reply, but they'll still turn down the date... it's not that important, but I thought it was something I should add to the list to work on.
If it's just a numbers game issue then I'm cool, wanted to ask however.
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AllMyHoesWearJoggers 4y ago
This isn't consecutively, just a pattern I've noticed occasionally, I'm not looking for one to stick around just keeping my rooster stocked up. It could be the type of girls as you mentioned because this particular pattern only happens with some of the girls, and the only common denominator is I meet them at parties/events and they seem highly interested in-person. This particular girl invited me over after we made-out, but I took her number and dipped.
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pfeilmacher 4y ago
Soft next. Something seems off about her, to be honest. But I didn't like your comment "show me those photography skills in person". Feels like you were hiding behind something, and women smell that shit a mile away.
Regardless, if you're chatting with 10 women, you're bound to get some interest from a few of them. Go fuck them.
AllMyHoesWearJoggers 4y ago
Thanks for the advice, my man. What would've been a better comment? I tried to tie it in with the subject at hand.
pfeilmacher 4y ago
Well, tying meeting her to photography gives her an out...."oh, I'm not really a photographer".
I think it's just better to be absolutely direct: "Meet me for a drink Wednesday at 8pm at the Thirsty Turtle."
whytehorse2021 4y ago
The psychology is women have 50 dudes texting them and none in person so they can't keep straight who is who. At this time in history it's better to stop texting and just make a phone call.
AllMyHoesWearJoggers 4y ago
I usually call first, when they don't pick up I initiate texting as is this case. Do you think it's better to send 1 intro text, then call instead of just straight calling like I usually do?
whytehorse2021 4y ago
If they don't have voicemail, sure.
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