Recently met a woman, been having sex with her and seeing her for a while. We have only had sex and spent time at each others' place, mostly at hers. No dates or that sort of stuff. The thing is that even though sex is not the best (can't get my dick up quite often, might be her looks or the problem's in me), I've started to like her. Her personality is what I seek from my future LTR(wife).
Now all of this can sound blue pill, but I have not steered away from my path. My path is to get shredded as fuck (looking good already) and work hard as fuck (studying like a motherfucker) and this woman hasn't taken time from this space. But I still think of her quite often even though my daily life is the same - grinding. What I'm asking/venting about is that are these feelings normal? This woman is my first everything, first kiss, sex, might even be hug lol... you get the point. I can totally see how people get really blue pilled. If it weren't for TRP, I'd be fucked already. So thank god that I found this place some time ago.
Flame me, teach me, whatever. I just want to get this out in the world and I'm hoping you guys here know how to answer this the best.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
If she's cool and improves your life then roll with it. If not, bounce. You're going to get natural male mating instincts, especially if you're cumming in her. That is: mate guarding/jealousy, territorial, and social monogamy.
itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Good point. Thanks for the comment mate.
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Yeah, my first.. And thanks for the input. She was my first, but she won't be my last. I have to fuck other women as well to see the best and worst of sex. But after discovering red pill a few years ago, I've only viewed sex as transactional in today's world and I do not want to feel that personally. I want sex to be personal, intimate and not just a transaction. So I'm in a bit of a pickle, I want to fuck other women at some point, but I also want it to be just more than sex for me to feel anything. I don't get how people spin plates and just use them for sex with no emotional connection to the woman, I see that as a huge waste of time.
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Well the thing is that I don't know myself, she's always asking what can she do better with me to make me feel good etc. When she gives head it doesn't really feel good, even though I want it to feel good. She could do it better I'm sure, got to experiment more. Sex feels good sometimes, but probably only because of the warmth of the pussy. I think my dick might be faulty lol. Or maybe years of jerking off and porn ruined me. I stopped porn 2 months ago though.
I've thought of LTRs a lot, because I want to have multiple children. This woman checks off a lot of traits that I wish to have in my LTR. But, it's quite early to go this beta and start thinking about LTR shit. First I have to know her for quite some while, and remember some fundamentals: I'm the prize, not her and there's she isn't the only fish in the sea.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 4y ago
her wanting to do things for you is good. Teach her how you like it, train your slut. Take her with some BDSM, try things with her, it's an opportunity and she wants it. She's telling you she wants to please her alpha It's fun time. Ragdoll her, whatever. Have fun, think less.
itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Yeah I slap her and strangle her a bit and stuff like that, she said she likes it and is cool with it. I have to have try more with her though. Anything come into mind? Something equal to slapping and choking. I thought of just shoving my dick in her mouth but she has gags really easy lol.
Intrepid_Place53900 1 4y ago
yes, vomit on your cock is not good ;) Got to teach her deep throat also.
Go watch 50 shades of Grey. Do that to her
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
She is, I'm her 3rd sex partner (apparently lol). She used to be much heavier, she's lost over 20 pounds before I met her, and still has some fat on her which is one of the negative issues with her, thankfully it's not much fat. And yeah I agree, the only reason why I didn't cut her off in the first few days of meeting her was experience. We haven't promised exclusivity, but I would feel bad for fucking another woman now, at least that's what I think. Still have to try it though. I know all unicorn talk is absolute horseshit and everyone probably feels like that their girl is a unicorn, but now that I think about it, everyone has a different unicorn. Everyone expects different things from a woman.
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
I hope so. But it helps to vent out to brothers and get some insight. You have provided valuable insight, thanks for that.
Damn bro. Yeah you might have went a bit too far with dick rubbing, chicks can easily get the feeling that they're being used for sex, this chick that I have now literally asked this for the first 10 times if I'm just using for her sex (I was, wasn't emotionally connected yet).
If she doesn't respond, there's two things that are the reason for this: she thinks you went too far, and is unable to say it (she's not mature and ballsy enough) or she simply forgot your text (she doesn't care about you). The thing is though that, you can get away with anything as long as you do it confidently. So don't overthink the dick rubbing if you didn't look insecure doing it. Either way whatever happens brother, it's her loss. If she doesn't want to meet up again, her loss. There's plenty of other chicks out there that want your dick.
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Haha, basic chicks. "No hookups." This chick was on top of my dick and I had my fingers on top of her pussy and she said "I'm not an easy one". Lol. We were both clothed still though.
And I 100% get what you mean. This woman that I have does not know her value. The value of today's woman is so low that it disgusts me. That's one of the biggest reasons that I have now feelings of some sort. I assume you're from the States and from what I've read from TRP, it's quite hard to find good ones there. Everything is a learning experience friend, you just got to be brave enough to experience it. Being almost 23 years old and finally getting to experience my firsts, this is something I've learned that just being confident in everything you do is the key. Don't overthink the dick rubbing, maybe she responds, maybe she doesn't.
If I were in your position and this chick doesn't respond at all, I would just continue on my path. Shit happens, you'll get over it.
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Damn, I can see it bugging you. In your situation, if she doesn't respond in a day or two, I would send one more text just to be sure. Some would say this is beta, but there's a slight chance that she's thinking of the same things. She maybe thinks you went too far and doesn't know your side of the story. It's just normal human interaction to send another text in my opinion.
"Hey, did you catch my message that I sent you sometime ago/yesterday/earlier/whatever?" If she doesn't respond to this, it's over. Life's rough and full of pain, but it goes on. Are you on top of your goals? Are you reminding yourself, that you are the prize? Not the women? How's your career/gains/intellectual gains?
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
I would not do that. I myself give compliments very rarely, as it's a slippery slope. I give them only when they are due. I wouldn't even bring up the dick rubbing, nothing of sorts. There's a chance that she doesn't even remember it and you're overthinking this all. Just in a day or two ask if she's down to meet again or no, and something indicating that it isn't just a hook up, go for a coffee with her etc., something "innocent" so she doesn't think you just want to fuck (which you don't).
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itsentirelypossible 4y ago
You definitely are. Been there done that, your mind is playing tricks on you. How do you know that she thinks what you think she thinks? You don't and chances are you're completely in the wrong. I have faith in you, Godspeed my friend. We're all gonna make it.
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pfeilmacher 4y ago
Bingo. Make her your whore.
johnnysmallseed 4y ago
Only if you fall under her spell. Then yes. Being with a girl and wanting to be with her doesn't mean your blue pilled. As long as you can see through the illusion of "love" to make rational decisions to keep your head above water.
itsentirelypossible 4y ago
Oh yeah, that's well put. She has tried to challenge me and somewhat try to make me say all the beta shit "you're beautiful. I only want you" etc. but I don't fall for it. Whenever she tries doing something manipulative, I just put her back in her place and kindly tell her to stfu.