So I need to get something off my chest, the past week I've experienced ED, I admit I've slipped up watching porn a couple times last week so that may have been a cause of it. Made a 45 day nofap streak recently but just crashed due to lack of control. Fast forward, I get drinks with a latina chick I'd rank somewhere between a 7.5 to 8 I met on bumble, was known it'd be a casual hook up. Got drinks exchanged small talk then drove her to my spot. We played video games for a bit and started making out. This was also the first night I ever gave oral which I usually don't do but felt good vibes with this girl, wasn't as bad as I thought but it's not really my thing.
Eventually we get rough for a bit and she wants me to fuck her, and keeps whispering just get to business and that I'm a tease. Honestly felt I could have gotten the job done but felt my vibe got thrown off a bit so I just fingered her a bit and called it a night. Usually i'm big on foreplay and love dominating women but felt I stepped into her frame to hard. Been about a week since then and hit her up but haven't heard back, honestly don't expect her to come back and not tripping my mindset is pretty abundant right now. Been a week and getting erections back but would like some perspective from another point of view.

NewCambrianEra 4y ago
You caught some itus from this girl in my opinion and gave her a little to much control over you during the sex. I’m pretty new. Started trp in highschool and stopped due to outside factors glad I returned but in my view your big mistake was allowing her to dictate to you how the sex would be done. She got you out of your comfort zone twice (eating her out + telling you when to actually have sex with her and stop foreplay/ enjoying your self) and maybe another time you aren’t telling us. I’d learn from it. Sure you might be doing great and crushing the game but as soon as you start to get comfortable. You lose your mojo. God speed.
NeoSpartan 4y ago
A very similar thing happened to me just this week. Also a latina, but did not tease me, she was just really really shy. Did not get full ed, but also didn't get a very strong erection. I definitely had full control so idk if it's that. I'm starting to worry some shit is going around honestly, I've seen like 3 ed posts in the last couple days. Anyway I bought some super thin and better fitting condoms and some herbal supplements so maybe that'll be the ticket.
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
Nobody asked.
And it's psychological for all of you. 100%
NeoSpartan 4y ago
Probably, but I'm gonna trick myself and placebo effect out of it ;D
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
A bit personal: did you get vaccinated?
NeoSpartan 4y ago
Yeah, but I don't think it was the vaccine dude. I think it has more to do with me not going after women for like 8 months prior to this. The second time was a marked improvement, still not where I wanna be though.
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
Well since you mentioned you worry some shit is going on, that's the only common factor I can think of.
Pfizer made heart medicine that turned out to be dick pills, who knows if they could mess up the vax? Then you'd be hooked to their product to fix a problem they created. Just a thought LOL. Im sure you'll be fine
NeoSpartan 4y ago
Don't fuck with my head bro. srs
Hanscheezburger 4y ago
Personal exp: fapping has some downsides but it's not a lot, unless you fap so much your dick went limp. I have fapped before sex and had no problem getting it up.
Things that I avoid:
It happens to the best of us. It's good that you dont let this get to your head. Try to set up another date if you're still interested but if it doesn't work, it's not the end of the world. You should only worry if this happens too frequently
coolsocks00 1 4y ago
What happened to the Alphamindset bro?
You say you experienced ED, but is that just based on this one encounter? Losing your hard-on once because you're inexperienced is not ED. It just sounds like you got thrown off by this woman doing things in a way you're not familiar with, so you momentarily lost your drive.
You let it affect you, and with the way you're overanalyzing this, and your "nofap streak", im guessing you just worry too much about your dick. These thoughts can get stuck in your head and potentially become actual issues like ED.
Read Sex God Method. Author describes what to do in situations where you get thrown off like this.
johnnysmallseed 4y ago
How many alts you have @NeoSpartan
NeoSpartan 4y ago
Hey smalls. Lots. I'm basically this whole forum. I might even be you.
Have you ever questioned the nature of your own reality johnny?
johnnysmallseed 4y ago
I only thing I question is @Zavss sexuality.
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pfeilmacher 4y ago
Big on foreplay but have only given oral once? Bro, you gotta learn some skills if you want repeat customers.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
She's probably pregnant and your body refused. Something like that.