long story short: went full beta over a super hot babe. needless to say i took the L. initially planned on going on some kinda monk mode wave of self improvement (lose weight/practice trp/etc).
about a month in of no contact, she makes a tinder. i superlike and we match. i ended up messaging her some grade a retarded shit ab coffee (she had coffee in her bio) bc fucking google said to incorporate shit from her bio/profile SMFH. needless to say, no answer for days.
i figure my message prolly got buried under an avalanche of never ending horny fucks from school buuut i decide fuck it. not gonna try to message again bc she obv knows she swiped right on me. if she really wants to get it on like donkey kong again she can message me. plus has my contact info lol.
bet. cool.
probs been almost a week since we’ve matched. today i checked my linkedin…
this girl searched me up and requested to connect (we’re not in same field of study or anything at all she barely even uses linkedin).
i accept and try to play it coy by waiting a couple days to hit her up. on account of i’m apparently still a quivering bitch i couldn’t last longer than a few hours. sent just a casual classic “hey” message on snap.
4 hours later…………
………… crickets.
thoughts/assessments:
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WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK does this woman want from me? i’ve fucked off already and made my peace w it. she was the one that rejected me; why tf is she matching me on tinder/connecting w me on linkedin now like deadass a month after everything happened?
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is this all some kind of giant ultra shit test? i feel like her being all nonresponsive n chit might be a shit test. bc back when we first met she’d pull that kind of shit, i’d just leave her on read and she’d come running back. flash forward to now like 1-2 yrs later and i was mr text back instantly like some kinda fuckin lapdog. she even remarked that back then i would “put up w all her shit” blah blah blah when she came over.
- can someone pls kindly make this shit make sense. i don’t think i understand women at all breh. idk how i even have a body count at this point.
ps: sorry for the rant. it all helps me a lot honestly.
jriver11 4y ago
You need some pussy brother
financehardo420 4y ago
idk dawgggg ive been having more pussy than i know what to do w these past few weeks. i’m just genuinely trying to figure out what this chick’s deal is lmao
Corneliuscaruso 4y ago
bro next. stop thinking about her. too many details you feel too strong. Read the rational male. the message is her behavior not what she says. frame. frame. frame. your frame. not her frame. your frame. not her frame.
financehardo420 4y ago
she literally hasn’t said anything tho.
it’s just like…. if i make up my mind that i don’t wanna keep smashing someone i’m gonna make up some kinda excuse so i don’t feel bad, say that shit and boom that’s it i go poof. def not swiping right on them on tinder; def not adding on linkedin lmfaooo. she watches all my snap stories and is doing this shit now.
does it mean she wants dick or what?
started reading rational male; got all 4 books. i lost my frame w this girl for sure that’s when everything started going downhill. what do you mean by her frame?
and if i’m understanding correctly frame is like self confidence/your perception of yourself and like staying in control yeah?
Corneliuscaruso 4y ago
Frame is how you enforce your boundaries. if she enforces boundaries on you and you listen, you're in her frame.
Her: This guy sent me a corny pickup line I'm not going to answer Chad exists sends her to dooney land, his first impression is alpha, he operates in his own frame, she follows. Chad fucks her then ghosts her. She needs him more than he needs her.
Her: Hmm I need attention, proceeds to drop notifications on your phone. you answer. she is now satisfied. She got the equivalent of you smashing. She isn't watching your stories for dick, she doesn't even think about it.
Alpha fucks: Chad, Beta Bucks: You. Men want to have sexy sexy while women want your attention.
I hope I explained it well enough.
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Hanscheezburger 4y ago
You're thinking too much. She probably got some friend suggestion from Linkedin because you guys made contact (who knows how much data these companies have on us. Could be she gave permission for the app to read her contacts).
un_knownguy 4y ago
dammn you're desperate as fuck
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Look up thirst trap.
PaidThaCost 4y ago
She is on tinder, you are competing against hundreds of others for her attention and you just sent a "hey message". Looks like you feel you don't have to put in any work because she searched and added you on linked in. Where is the message to spike her curiosity, where is cocky & funny?
More important, what do you want.
What this means is that you have potential but maybe others are outworking you so she is busy with them for now. Crash & burn. If you like her give it your best shot and if it doesn't work move on. Don't be afraid of rejection.
p.s. Her being on tinder is not a good sign
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financehardo420 4y ago
tbh haha ya got me there. i nosedived so bad w this girl like figured there’d be 0 chance in hell she’d ever hmu again. so the limp dicked “hey” is more just like i’m at a total loss don’t even know what to say.
full context: we had a fling for like a semester 2 years ago. i had much better frame then and it ended w/o me acting like a beta bitch boi. this sem we saw each other again after i gained ab 35lb of fat (almost down to 20 now tho). i was ultra beta this time around. loollll help me come up w something clever pls pls.
valid statement. i’ve kinda started this whole self improvement thing and was planning on reaching out to her after. on the other hand we all have our types and this girl is basically my dream girl so i want
she ended up deleting her tinder and we matched again. this time i tried to be a lil funny; said “so do you come here often?” but no answer yet. she opened my hey on snap, saved it in chat (??) and hasn’t replied :/
ps you’re right on that note BUT i will say tinder, at least in my particular region, = not nearly as popular.