Before anyone thinks about it: Not oneitis for that hoe even if it‘s a long text, just want to learn.
Story: Girl I got to know before I found TRP around 8 months ago and that always has played with me (Beta bait: making out but never more, talking about sex,...) did it again on the weekend. We have the same group of friends so we will see each other again. She made out with me, then with another guy. Came back to me, told me she wants me more. Got back to the other guy. Told her I‘m never the backup guy. She made out with me again, told me she wants to blow me, blablabla, then she goes back to the other guy. This time, I told her (lost frame tho) that she can go fuck herself and that I will not let something like that happen again. She asked the next day via text if everything is alright or if I‘m mad at her.
I answered with „good, you see that you gave me a reason to. I‘ll think about forgiving you“. Later, she texted „please forgive me :(. Sorry!“
Questions:
- I read that you should not dwell on an apology. Still, I think that those words are just words and nothing more, so I haven‘t answered (yet). What should I do here? Never got in such a situation, neither thought she would apologize.
- When I see her again: Act normal like nothing happened or what?
- She might try to get me back as an orbiter by trying to make out with me again. I read in a post that you should never let a girl make up for disrespectful behaviour with sex since we both like sex. What should I do IF she tries that?
What I think about all that:
- Bad that I lost frame. Being drunk doesn‘t help keeping frame.
- Good that I told her she can fuck herself (more or less setting a boundary? Enough is enough...) and not crawling back after she texted me. Would have done that without TRP.
Teach me better but my go to is to be normal with and around her but don‘t react to any sexual stuff she tries.
Cheers.
PaidThaCost 2y ago
Ignore her. She is very low quality still you are letting her toy with you. Don't respond under any circumstances. If you run into her tell her you've been busy. DOn't make out with her again under any circumstances. If you are going out and she will be there, take care of yourself beforehand to reduce your thirstiness.
If you have to respond to her apology just say it is fine. If she asks you what she should do say nothing, it's fine and don't respond again.
Hard but this is the only way
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
Wait a moment. I’m confused. I will run into her and chances are high that she will either say „sorry“ again or if everything is alright. You are saying that I should say it is fine. It’s not fine. I want to ditch her and get her as out of my life as possible. How is saying it is fine the right way to do that?
PaidThaCost 2y ago
That is the drama-free way. If you say it is not fine she will keep on trying to make it fine and suck you in with promises of what she is going to do to show you she is sorry.
It is in your own interest to accept and forget about what happened and move on, free your mind for more important stuff. There are other girls in your circle, anytime you run into her just treat her like the ones you don't have any interest in whatsoever. Easier said than done I know.
SheLarror1234 2y ago
"She made out with me, then with another guy. Came back to me, told me she wants me more. Got back to the other guy. Told her I‘m never the backup guy. She made out with me again, told me she wants to blow me, blablabla, then she goes back to the other guy."
"This time, I told her (lost frame tho) that she can go fuck herself and that I will not let something like that happen again. "
"I answered with „good, you see that you gave me a reason to. I‘ll think about forgiving you“. Later, she texted „please forgive me :(. Sorry!“
SheLarror1234 2y ago
Questions: I read that you should not dwell on an apology. Still, I think that those words are just words and nothing more, so I haven‘t answered (yet). What should I do here? Never got in such a situation, neither thought she would apologize.
When I see her again: Act normal like nothing happened or what? She might try to get me back as an orbiter by trying to make out with me again. I read in a post that you should never let a girl make up for disrespectful behavior with sex since we both like sex. What should I do IF she tries that?
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
Thank you.
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
„ This is where you actually messed up at. You have no boundary's and she is clowning you. You don't take yourself seriously. She disrespected you and showed that she gives no 2 craps about you and you look like an idiot for not realizing that. Her response is very "i dont even care" and I can bet you she laughed at that message“
Yes, looks a lot like „i don’t even care“.
What would have been a better response? Found what I wrote in a askTRP post... How to proceed when I see her or see messages me?
SheLarror1234 2y ago
How you should/should have proceeded with her. HARD NEXT. Ghost her. Ignore her. Act like you barely know her.
Usually when people keep asking how they should proceed with a chick they already failed completely with, they are still somewhat looking for a way to sauce their way in. There's no real message you can write that can recover this. And even if you do, your only recovering trash.
But perhaps you dont want to hear that. Even if you still want to "win" in this situation, its still best for you to ghost her. Your still too new to the game if you didn't get what you wanted from this easy chick yet. By ghosting her you even have a better chance because at least then will she realize that you are serious. Obviously when she comes running back to you (if she does) she wont have changed, no matter what she tells you. But then you can use that period of her pretending to do what you wanted her to do, to actually get her to do what you want her to do, for a short while until she's back to who she really is.
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
I see what you are telling me. Still, if i didn’t want to hear that, I wouldn’t have created a post on here.
Kinda thankful for her/that as it showed me what you described: I‘m still too new to this game.
I‘m not searching for a recovery or a message for it, I wanted to know what I should have done instead and you answered that. In that moment, I wanted to answer that text so I don’t seem butthurt.
SheLarror1234 2y ago
My mistake then. Thanks for the clarification. I edited some of my posts so they include more information. Wish you success brotha
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
Thanks, take care.
hannulv 2y ago
The only way to catch this girl is EXTREME dominance. You need to find every guy that this chick has ever made out with and completely humiliate him through forced sexual domination. Once she knows these other guys are your pussycat, she'll know that you are ALPHA and the only best option for her.
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
this made me laugh, nice
NeoSpartan 2y ago
hahahaha ^ this. Do it XD
NeoSpartan 2y ago
Jesus man. This chick sounds gross. You should go out and find some different girls. Do you really want to keep this girl? I'm just wondering how things got to this point in the first place with her where she thinks it's okay to make out with other dudes right in front of you. You obviously messed up a lot way before this shit happened.
If you actually want to keep her (I wouldn't but I guess I'm way more of the jealous type than you are) man up next time and stop her from doing that shit. Closest experience I had to this was some girl I was dating at 17 sat on the armrest of this chair this other dude was sitting in at a party, grabbed her arm and led her away, she seemed pleased by that. You must have failed the first shit test long ago, I don't know if there is a way to fix that at this point, I doubt there is. Could be wrong tho, but my read is you are already low status to this girl and I doubt there is a way to change that at this point.
Actually thinking about it, another similar experience I had was some random chick on a cruise came up to me and started getting all close, but I guess I was too slow because after talking for like 3 minutes she goes up to this other dude and starts making out. I peaced at that point. Met another girl later the next day. Fuck that first ho. Abundance dude. Drop that one. It's not like there's a shortage of females.
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
Well I didn’t know anything about TRP principles when I met her, so she’s playing with me for quite some time and obviously I let her do quite some shit to me hoping to have sex with her one day. So I am definitely low status in her eyes. Doubt that this is fixable without investing something into that which I don’t want to.
NeoSpartan 2y ago
No almost certainly not fixable at this point. Her idea of who you are has already been cemented in her mind, it'll be much easier for you to just find a new girl and do it right next time from the start.
mercedesamgpetronas 2y ago
Yes 100% agree with this.