If you're having big issues going through life, got bullied, bad relationships or nice guy syndrome, chances are your mother is the main cause, then also your father to an extent. The worst combo you can get is a manipulative/abusive mother and a beta controlling father.
I grew up in this kind of environment, i got bullied, tried to be nice, got bullied more, then became agressive and pushed anything back, and got rejected, still struggling.
I didn't know how to react since my personality was repressed since my young age, i got castrated by my manipulative mother. You may think "Wtf is this guy, talking like that about your mom", that's what i would've said not long ago, but the truth hurts and it's essential to understand why you're not like other people.
bjjneck 2y ago
look up "The 5 Stages of Unplugging". This might give you more clarity on how you feel. I know how you feel, but there's nothing you can do to change the past. Focus on what you can do now. You already know that getting angry about stuff won't change your situation.
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SheLarror1234 2y ago
Everything you said is true op. As a kid I remember being way more "idgaf" until my shitty mother started to publicly embarrass me. My personality WAS stifled because of that.
Only thing is to realize this is by design. The majority of men in todays time have these type of shitty mothers. Its not exclusive. Its the whole thing about how "toxic" masculinity is simply masculinity itself, and how they really just want to stifle that. "They" don't want you being "dangerous" u know
But now that we know, then what? What's next? You can only keep it pushing and change.
And I think trp community does talk about mothers. They are literally the same as the females talked about in trp. I don't see posts like these that talk bout shitty mothers but id bet that's only because talking about shitty female nature explains it better.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Your first relationship with a woman is your mother. Mine prepared me to be a slave to women. She is no longer in my life. Problem solved on my end.