I have a date with a girl in a few weeks due to travel. We planned the date during the day. Later that night she texted me and it quickly turned into a shit test:
Her: You're so sweet to remember to follow up with me about our date
Me: Yeah I'm looking forward to it, it'll be fun
Her: we'll see how fun you are
Me: hahaha
Her: good luck!
Me: I'm just happy you're rooting for me
Her: Who said I'm rooting for you? That's just the civilized thing to say
Didn't really know what to say back, so I just left her on read. Figuered with shit tests, you either agree or amplify or ignore - so I chose to ignore.
Any thoughts here?
NewCambrianEra 2y ago
she bitched you over text. you failed all the shit texts.
hannulv & johnnysmallseed said it best.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I would've used a pressure flip:
We'll see how fun you are...
...In bed
SavingsParamedics 2y ago
u failed the first shit test so she hit u with a huge second one. "you going to be this civilized when we meet?" w a smirky emoji
un_knownguy 2y ago
I don't know, but it seems like she's previously felt beta vibes in you, and the "Yeah I'm looking forward to it, it'll be fun", sounds like youre way more invested in seeing her that she's in seeing you, I would flake purposely
unshack 2y ago
forget that bitch and just find a local woman to bang
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
Well she sounds pleasant... But yeah its one of the more obvious shit tests and you do have the right idea.
As always with texting it can be hard to play it in your favor because intent and emotion is often unclear, so IME everything needs to be made a lot more clear. I.e. your "im just happy you're rooting for me" can be interpreted as actually needy even though that was not intended or felt by you at all. Girls will sometimes interpret texts in the worst way they can.
While agree & amplify and "ignore" are two good ways to deal with shit tests it's not the whole picture. You generally also want your texts to communicate your cocky&funny attitude and abundance mentality. This way you can ignore the shit test but you keep the interaction going so you can end it in a good way, while being sure that she doesnt interpret your silence ("ignore") as uncertainty etc.
Read the sidebar blog post on shit tests from illimitableman if you need inspiration.
Jakeyg 2y ago
Nailed it
SeasonedRP 2y ago
Just say something like "sure it is."
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NeoSpartan 2y ago
You fucked up with the im happy you are rooting for me thing. Should have been more confident. Say something about being a savage maybe? lol, idk man. I can't really remember the last time I got shit tested.
How about "Well that's alright, I've always been leaned more towards the savage thing anyway winky face emoji" That sounds good to me. Try it.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
You know he fucked up bad when all you have to read is HER first reply, "you're so sweet".
hannulv 2y ago
Where's your sense of banter? There's a million comebacks to that neg. Ignore stinks of butthurt, especially in text. "Jesus Christ, girls. Let me show you how sensitive this guy is, I playfully neg-ed him and he went off to pout."
"You didn't seem all that civilized when I was there." "I hope you're not one of those civilized girls." "I hope you're not bringing that civilized attitude on our date." "I'm sure I can teach you to be less civilized."
There are thousands of options here. This is the sort bantz opportunity that girls adore and she clearly begging for it. "We'll see how fun you are." means lets play with wit and banter because it turns me on to see how fun and smart you are.
johnnysmallseed 2y ago
This is Hollywood movie material chump text chain. The more I read on here the less I believe the users here are real. She's already got you by the balls and she knows it. Why go further?