What do to when you tell someone to stop doing something and he keeps doing it.
In my case I told the guy almost 5 times to stop touching my car(he was my schoolmate) and only on the 6th try when I was super serious he stopped.He was putting his feet on my car and shit.
Now this is a highschool environment and I'm not some scrawny kid(18,185cm,90kg) but people still do shit like this to me.
How to proceed with these types of people and how to make people respect my boundaries more?
BootySpillingOut 2y ago
Physical boundaries enforced by physical means. Push him off your car. If you are not strong enough you have to get stronger.
_Nsh_ 2y ago
I thought about it,but I didn't want to seem like I was butthurt if you know what I mean.
coolsocks00 1 2y ago
What the others said. Being physical doesnt mean you have to fight. But as men there's always the underlying threat of physicality, and you have to show that you are actually willing to step up to the plate when tested. Depending on relations you can just shove him off and tell him to seriously get the fuck away from your car. No need to get worked up about it, and if people see that you're calm and actually not butthurt but just serious about it they will respect it.
Obviously there are limits to this. Dont try to step up in a dangerous situation just to get yourself injured for the sake of pride.
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hannulv 2y ago
Totally disagree. It is James Dean vs. Charles Bronson. James Dean does it with a big emotional fit, Bronson does it with quiet gaze and a strong hand.
Much of not being butthurt in an enforcement is about controlling the level of force and humiliation so that they're appropriate to the circumstance, and not turning a teaching moment into punching down.
So punching the guy would be butthurt, but picking him up and moving him would be fine unless he escalates.
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_Nsh_ 2y ago
this shit makes sense,thanks