Asked out girl at my job (part time retail). Chatted a couple times and found out we are going to the same college & some other pointless shit and now I'm going bowling w/ her this friday. Said she'd call out of work to go with me so I'm not concerned with her level of attraction to me. The lack of hesitation in her response was also quite nice.
Anywho, my plan was to bowl for a bit, walk in the park & toss around a football, then get some pizza and maybe smash on the next date or get something going. Something casual.
Sound like a good plan? I'm not the type to try and smash on the first date but if the energy's there I'll do some crazy stuff - but I feel like she's in my frame and I want to give her the sauce, but wanna find out if she's worthy of it.
constructionmane 4y ago
Yeah man I think that’s a good gameplan, if you don’t smash by third date soft next. If she reaches back out, invite her to your place. Make sure to escalate every time your in her presence.
shootinglikekobe 4y ago
Honestly sounds like your doing a lot for a first date for a girl you're not even sure if you like "like that", but that's just me.
Can grab a drink w/ her and accomplish the same thing significantly faster & cheaper.
ImOnThePoH 4y ago
In hindsight you are correct. I just haven't met anyone from my college + she showed interest and I found her interesting enough so I thought it'd be worth it. I think I'm still in highschool mode when it comes to my view on what a "date" is lol
shootinglikekobe 4y ago
I just graduated so were near the same age to preface. Doesn't have to be anything crazy. To me, all that romantic shit is saved for girls that have stuck around for a while, feel like it should be earned. Furthermore, I believe they'll appreciate it more when you hold out on it bc they'll feel like they've earned it as well. Doing all that early could make you seem very emotional to the girl as well and turn her off IMO. Whatever works for you is best though everybody's game is different.
For me personally, usually I'll take her to bar or a light eats place and just chat/escalate there. Gotta find what works best for you though by trial and error.
Hope it went well man.
SeasonedRP 2 4y ago
Sounds like a good gameplan. Bowling can be a good date activity.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
If I were your date I'd be very disappointed if you didn't cum in me after all that. Just sayin...
ImOnThePoH 4y ago
Bro I'm dead. I've been out of the dating game too long, gotta get my juice back
MonkMode 4y ago
Always try to smash. On de escalate based on the present energy. Always give 100% unless she provides different energy not worth 100%.
Waiting may kill the vibe and fucking hard always secures the vibe.
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hannulv 4y ago
If you think about it, your sauce is pretty damn cheap, you've probably even thrown a fair amount of it away. With subtle game you can escalate throughout the night without being creepy. Girls like to smash too, especially after a fun date. Don't expect it, but don't cockblock yourself by failing to plan appropriately to accommodate it. She seems like she's into you. Kiss her as soon as a reasonable moment presents itself. Touch her as much as she seems to like. IMO, restaurants usually suck as a place to socialize one-on-one, especially on Fridays. I'd pack a blanket and a little picnic for the park. You can always lay down and watch the stars after with a little beer or wine. You'll have plenty of time on the date to decide if she isn't worthy, and more opportunities for touching, cuddling, making out, and escalating further.
ImOnThePoH 4y ago
Yeah it is pretty cheap but I haven't been on a date since i was 16 (led to an LTR) and after going full on monk mode I want to have some fun. Will 100% escalate and go for it, but honestly it's been a while because of Covid. I wouldn't say I was/am desperate, but I think she's worth a shot.
Thanks for the advice, will get after it.