been fighting my beta side off, met a couple girls over the past few weeks (thru bars and parties) haven't smashed any but I would. last weekend I invited them to a bar on friday and all of them said they were busy and didn't offer a different day. Tried again with one girl in specific the next day (sat) and still same thing.
My beta self is saying to keep inviting them to at least keep some form of connection, but my gut is telling me I need to keep finding other girls and give up on the old. Thoughts?
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Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
The most immediate problem I see here is that you are asking girls out the day of a weekend. You should be asking them in advance like Tues or Wednesday.
You're basically telegraphing to them that you are a man who does not have weekend plans on the day of a weekend
Edit: also are you forming any kind of attraction before asking them out or just shooting your shot and seeing what sticks?
cdjuiced 4y ago
Should have made that more clear, id invite them 2-3 days before.
Just shooting tbh, still trying to work on my game and sparking attraction.
Vermillion-Rx Admin 4y ago
Gotcha, I usually don't even try to get numbers unless there's some interest established already or if I know there's no chance I'll naturally run into them again so I just say fuck it because it doesn't matter anyway
A lot of women who have no intention to ever go out with you will still give you their number for whatever reason (boredom, orbiters, etc.).
Edit: the best way to get numbers is to click with a girl first and then suggest plans. If she says yes to the plans, grab her number so you can text her logistics. If she's already said yes to plans, it's less about the number and more about the plans anyway and you already know she's down