Turning 20 soon. Started working out at the beginning of this year alongside starting bjj and muay thai. The usual glow up story since I was a total band geek in highschool.
Right now I'm working in retail while planning my next move. So far I want to get an apprenticeship with a local union so I can become an electrician. That doesnt start till september of 2022 tho.
Anyways, since I'm on my own grind right now I feel great. Socialize well, feel relaxed, overall happy with my growth. I got out of a LTR last year around this time which began my journey, but I still have a hard time trying to ask girls out.
I just don't know what the hell is wrong with me, was hoping some of you could talk some sense into me. I don't have oneitis and I give no fucks, but I get all nervous and it's so frustrating.
Thanks in advance, Gents.
Corneliuscaruso 4y ago
You’re just like me. I turn 20 in December. Started mma in April but only for 3 months, going back this month. I worked retail until April, started my own pressure washing business. Idk where you’re located but it’s a good side hustle and pretty low startup. I can link you to my yt if you’re curious. Nothing wrong with you bro, we’re both on a good path after finding trp. Keep going at it and spin plates.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 4y ago
Think you just need some more life under your belt lad. Can't expect to be a zen master at 20 years old. You're on a lifelong journey, it'll come to you as you gain some scars and grow some wrinkles. Just don't get anyone pregnant and enjoy the ride, you'll get better at this with experience.
Guyandtheroadtovictory 4y ago
Yo,
I get nervous sometimes as well, but as I understood, it is the mindset thing - when you will imagine that women poops as well and has her specific flaws, it will be easier. Dont pedestalize internally them, you are great, already on the horse. Ride them hard and own that sh*t.
Repetition beats talent, Also nice for bjj and thai box, i fckin love that as well. Before pandemic situation started bjj and have k-1 background. Fck i miss before pandemic situation :(
whytehorse2021 4y ago
It's blue pill conditioning. It's a way for women to get betas to exclude themselves from the sex market. Once you overcome that you get to deal with the bitch shield, shit tests, and anti-slut defense. The nervousness is from insecurity. The insecurity is from being told you're not good enough. Well, I believe in you. You're good enough, you're smart enough, and gosh doggit, people like you.