I spent a lot of my 20's not really being intentional with my career and just fucking around. As a result, last year I was working in a call center last year for a big bank. I was about 27 and they hired this 25 year old chick to be my supervisor. I'd seen her around the office and it was obvious she was attracted to me. She was the cutest girl on the floor and I'd always see her talking freely with other dudes (who would orbit her like crazy) but whenever I ran into her she'd just put her head down and get awkward. I was fucking another girl there and when I broke things off this girl went to HR and my supervisor obviously heard all about it and got more aggressive.

Supervisor would spend hours a day sitting near my desk struggling to make conversation and proceeded to text me on my days off, show me dirty memes, etc. She also talked about me to the other managers because they'd all encourage me to talk to her or say that she said something about me and smile sheepishly.

However, big red flag for me, she has hella guy friends and used the worst phrase of all time: "I'm not like other girls. Girls are just drama." That convinced me she's a thot so I didn't sweat it and just enjoyed the perks of having a boss that crushes on you. I eventually got a promotion (making more than she does) partly due to her not bothering me about going to interviews or looking for opportunities instead of working. Something I do sincerely appreciate since I've had some shitty managers.

She reached out to me a few times after starting my new gig but I was legit so busy that I could rarely respond or really engage so she fell off. Now, when I run into her she just looks mopey/puppy dog eyes. I want to drop off some dick out of appreciation but I know it won't just be that anymore. Last time we spoke she mentioned kids/marriage kinda out of the blue and I don't want another public breakup at my job. Even though I don't work in the same department, you never know who knows who and a lot of these beta male managers who love her will fuck with me if she tells them to. I feel like she's gone from lust to respect/admiration/love and I'm not trying to cuff her. But I can't help but feel gay for not fucking this girl that is doing everything she can to get some.

Am I The Asshole?