Ive got severe autism I believe and never went to college or had friends or a real girlfriend. How do I learn to embrace and enjoy this? Been adopting masochistic traits and learnimg to enjoy isolation any tips?
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
2 years of weekly therapy in combination with my book will get you to a social level that you can get friends and gfs. My son went from non-verbal to popular at school and having girls chase him by the time he was 12. I'd definitely recommend getting started in therapy right away as well as joining a combat sport gym like MMA or similar. Think of your therapist as your practice person and your gym members as your new tribe. These are the most effective investments you can make in yourself.
You don't embrace it, you overcome it like your life depends on it because it does. Nobody gives a damn about men and they certainly don't give a damn about autistic men so we have to give a damn about ourselves. You have to be a little selfish. You have to recognize that you have agency. Your experience in this world is shaped by your thoughts and actions. There are actions you can take, and you damn well know what they are because I just told you, that will reduce your suffering. There are sacrifices you can choose to make, like training/working out/therapy, or you can have life choose your sacrifices for you, like no friends/no education/no pussy.
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whytehorse2021 2y ago
Well you need a practice person. A therapist specializing in cognitive behavioural therapy would be even better because they're already on board with what autists need, except they lack the stuff in my book because they don't have autism and don't understand how to act neurotypical(they're born with it and never think about it)... but if you explain it to them what you're trying to learn, something like using gaze for communication, they'll understand and get you to where you need to be to communicate effectively with allists.
Growing 2y ago
Pressure makes diamonds. Do the things you don't like.
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Growing 2y ago
Then why are you in the asktrp?
Don't lie to yourself. You want better. You know it. That's why you are in this forum.
What scares the shit out of you is the amount of suffering you'll have to go through to get to where you want to be.
I'm a trained social person. I used to think "why are people so empty? Small talk. Disgusting. People smh."
But now I understand. Nothing builds you more than shit you hate doing.
Zoom out pal. Like really zoom out.
In 5 years, who will be in a better place?
The you who has decided fuck it or the you who has decided "I'll take this small painful incremental steps to build a better social life. Of course, I'll fuck up. But every time I fuck up I'll know what not to do and do that which might give me a fighting chance"
Anyway, it's your call.
Musicgoon425 2y ago
You're setting yourself up to be submissive. Most women and men despise a submissive man. And how to do that? Don't ask us. No one here will tell you that's a good thing. In fact it's fucking horrible. Ditch the incel mindset, lift and go out and be social.
unplugged69 2y ago
You need to force yourself to get out there and use your intelligent mind to understand and eventually dominate social interactions. Weaponize your autism and use it.
Look into stoicism, it's perfect to help you overcome tough situations. I used to be autistic and overcame it with a lot of perseverance, if I did it then anyone can.
whytehorse2021 2y ago
Used to be autistic? How does that work? You have it for life.