I called this girl and told her I had a connecting flight through her city and that we should hang. I’ve only met up with her 3 other times over two years (the first was a failed ons). I’ve had feelings for her over these whole two years and finally made that clear to her in this brief span of time (probably a little too strong) but I guess she thought that was cute.
Anyway, I followed her insta like a couple weeks ago and shes kept me in “requested”, this whole time. I acknowledged back then that I probably tried following her to soon in a funny way. Well, while we were tallking at a table and brought up snapchat I was like “you have one?” And she said yeah and brought out her phone so I could add her and instead of immediately adding back (like you’d usually do), she put her phone away. After our quick 3 hour layover “date” in the city (even rode the same scooter thing through the city) she still hasn’t added me back the next day on either snap or insta. Even though we planned to possibly meet up again some time next month. So what’s up here?
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
You're acting needy and searching for comfort in her "accepting your request". You literally had her in front of you. Did you kiss her? Did you fuck her? Did you see tits? If the answers NO, don't sulk in her not adding you back, you have bigger problems
Read the sidebar.
Trp398 2y ago
Probably could’ve kissed her but didn’t. As for the rest, I suggested we go back to her place and then she said she still needs to get her stuff ready for first day of classes the next day. She also said she wasn’t comfortable with me staying over just yet (which is weird because she came over to my apartment after a few texts the first time) and she brought up how she didn’t want it to end up like last time (almost hooking up then not talking again). She also said she ghosted me the first time because she thought all I wanted was a hookup like a buncb of other guys [but she is promiscuous]. I ended up having her drop me off at a hotel by the airport.
YourOwnDisaster 2y ago
Forget her words, watch her actions.
You should've escalated and used Kino throughout your little date. Forget about your social media interaction with this girl and for the most part any girl that you're interested in real life. You need to work on your interactions in real life.
Read up on game, kino and escalation, and validation seeking behavior... In fact, pour over the entire sidebar. It'll seriously help. It's under the "about" portion
https://www.reddit.com/r/asktrp?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
whytehorse2021 2y ago
I don't use those things for anything other than some boring things I put in there for the NSA or FBI if they ever look me up. You're just one of many random guys who comes through town and fucks her. You can see why it's awkward to tell her you've developed feelings.