First of all, I lift.
I had an LTR for six months and last week I learned that she was cheating on me with her ex. First she denied but then confessed. Last time We had sex 2 weeks ago before I learned it. And the they after we had sex, she had with him.
I was not showing enough attention in the last month of our relationship. Other than that I did evrything according to sidebar and redpill I maintained frame, never showed emotional weakness and always kept 3/1 attention rule. Man, it still happened. I blocked her everywhere, just hard next.
I made a mistake in a rage moment by calling her I accept this mistake and lessons learned should have never called.
I trusted her because she gained that trust. She was like a Slave to me. There was no red flag. I would never expect this. Yes, I know it was just my turn. I know awalt.
Man, this shit is really hard. The pain is something else. The anger is so different from all kind of anger. How do you accept this? Need some advice.
Musicgoon425 4y ago
You have a few problems. You weren't her best option. You didn't show preselection, you don't have abundance and there was no dread there.
This is why we suggest having multiple options. If you did this wouldn't be as big of a deal and sadly, she would have been more likely to stay with you.
When you know you have options, girls will fear leaving you alone lest you end up balls deep in another girl in record time.
fblackstone 4y ago
Options,yes but how do you show that to a girl if you live in a country that monogamy is the only relationship possible?
unplugged69 4y ago
Maybe move out of that country since to a woman monogamy means nothing and she will cheat the first chance she gets.
But even in your situation it's possible, be high value, talk and flirt with women often and even in front of her, and do some research on dread. The married TRP guys use dread a lot since it's the only weapon they have and it works pretty well. Go read the 12 stages of dread, oh and never ever get fucking married.
fblackstone 4y ago
I think my core problem about my pain is that I could not really accepted AWALT and women are sluts. I see that now. And no. I wont get married.
unplugged69 4y ago
Don't worry man, we've all been there. It takes one woman to crush us really bad and destroy all our dreams, and then we find the redpill and wake up. It's harder to know the truth, but at least this way you can protect yourself in the future and have a better life with less drama.
Good luck out there, and always remember there are men out there who are willing to help and are more trust worthy than any woman.
fblackstone 4y ago
thats why I came to this sub. I know these men can help a man. These men understand what other men' feel. I am glad to be in this community. Thanks. There is a lot time and effort needed for me to become a real man.
ks789 4y ago
I hope she didn't tell you "You weren't showing me enough attention!". First of all, you need to not take this personally, not that you are, but: as far as we know She didn't go fuck this guy cause you have a little shrimp dick or a fat belly. People, and women, can be retards and fuck up and make mistakes like all humans. Chances are once this guy dumps her she will be hitting you back up. Don't let it sink in your head like you weren't fit enough, or tall enough, or whatever insecurity you can think of.
You were only with this chick for 6 months, I'm positive you'll look back on this learning experience but to me 6 months is barely out of dating territory, I vet much harder and longer than that, so it's all subjective. I'm sure you dicked her down pretty good and now it's some other dude's turn, be glad you were at least hitting it before he was. I can admit that yes I've lost plates and things before and sometimes it has "sucked" for a couple days, but I'm telling you keep focusing on yourself and moving forward and meeting new women. You don't necessarily need advice, you just need to keep moving and I don't think making a post to dwell about the past will help. I think you already know what the people here will tell you, get off the internet, whenever she comes into your mind let it pass without judgement and keep moving forward with yourself.
fblackstone 4y ago
Thanks man. I was feeling very low about my self esteem. You are right. She comes to my mind very frequently and it will take time to ease.
ks789 4y ago
Appreciate that, Musicgoon425 has solid advice for you too, perhaps a bit more direct than myself: having multiple options (girls) mitigates simp behavior, and ask yourself if you had 2 other girls you knew and hung out/had sex with, would you even really care as much as you do now if at all? I had a plate I hung out with for over a year, out of NOWHERE got a text saying she was moving on. All I wrote was "Bummer, best of luck to you." and moved on. Partly in thanks because I knew I wouldn't be sitting dry that weekend.
fblackstone 4y ago
I would not think of her at all
ks789 4y ago
Great. I see you wrote "If you live in a country that monogamy is the only relationship possible" I'm not inclined to agree... living in the Middle East, sex before marriage is illegal here, it stops nobody.
fblackstone 4y ago
I think its my family conditioning makes me think this way. I need to learn a lot more.
fockedup 4y ago
How did you find out? Did you notice any signs leading up to it?
fblackstone 4y ago
her friend told me about this. I just realized that she was a bit distant in the last two weeks.
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fblackstone 4y ago
How to accept this?
whytehorse2021 4y ago
2 things: Men have an instinct to be repulsed by promiscuous women. We also have an instinct to be jealous and mate guard, be territorial, etc. Trust your instincts. If you think back you probably had a little voice in your head suggesting she's cheating or you overlooked some red flags.
fblackstone 4y ago
Yes, I see those flags now clearly. I made a lot of mistakes.
BusterVadge 4y ago
The easiest way for me to cope during past breakups is to realize that the person who you thought she was is dead. Mourn that loss, and move on. It's easier than mentally debating with yourself and going down the rabbit hole of what ifs.
fblackstone 4y ago
fuck what ifs. they hurt really deep. I will try this technique man. It sounds helpful.